OK, it's official. He has now decided, because I'm hopeless about it otherwise, that bedtime is now a rule - 3am, with half an hour's grace. And I'm to be ASLEEP too - not just IN BED (and presumably rolling about with a book or an iphone game in hand).
This is very fair, I think. Any earlier and I'll probably wake up too early to make it through my last class properly (I usually end at 9). This isn't a new problem. For a while there he would remind me, and I would do it. But on the days he didn't tell me to get to bed early, I'd just stay up and fold the laundry and watch my movies and catch up on these highly addictive TV series - you know the ones... Leverage... White Collar... Merlin... I could go on and on.
"What brought this on?" you might ask. Um, well, I texted him this morning when I woke up at 10am. I had people coming over for lunch today so there was some light cooking to be done. And I was grouchy and complaining that I was feeling crazy tired. I knew he was gonna ask the moment I said that.
What time did you sleep?
630
(he sends me an emote: the sideways-glance-unhappy-with-you-down-turned-mouth one)
What happened to 3?
What happened to 3? What's 3?
Sleeping at 3.
I know what you mean... but I didn't know we set me a time. Did we?
(Ok, you caught me. Pfft. This whole exchange was just me playing at being innocent and ignorant and clueless. I never thought I'd be guilty of such a crime. Clearly I was wrong.)
No, but you KNOW sleeping late makes you tired (yes he CAPS-ed it!)
---Then there was some chit chat here about how it looked like I was getting better at going to bed earlier, and how I'd been doing a good job these last few months and of my own accord too, I admitted it was probably because when he says goodnight before he heads off to bed he'll say something like "don't sleep too late", or he'll ask me what time I'm planning to go to bed and that sort of makes me feel like I have to do it, cos I've committed to it. BUT when he doesn't ask or remind me, it all goes to hell.
Just as sleeping late is bad for me, it's bad for you too.
(On some days he has to be up by 530 so the night before I'll usually remind him when it's about 1am that he has to be up earlier than usual, and he'd better get to sleep.)
I'd much rather have you sleep early and wake up earlier - gives you more time to do stuff and doesn't screw with your sleep cycle, like when you have to wake up early for whatever.
Sigh, yeah. Like weekends, when I have to wake up early.
Or any other weekday when you have something to do.
(like today... he didn't say it, but I heard it!)
Is there anything you absolutely MUST do past 3 in the morning?
no...I can sleep before 3...
Then it's a rule. Sleep before 3. With 30 mins leeway. So 3.30 latest - and not just in bed.
(Maybe if he were HERE to spank me and send me to bed, I'd be less reticent about sleeping earlier every night.)
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In other news, since my hair is no longer curly, but is, instead, long and straight, and in the wake of the recent post about ponytails and hair grabbing in public, PLUS his new-found expertise in using my hair as a handle when fucking my mouth, I asked him (very submissively) if I should now wear my hair in a ponytail when we go out, so that he has ready access to hair-tugging.
No prizes for guessing his answer. Will update the Definitions page soon.
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Personal decisions :
1) I'm quite done with alcohol - aside from the wine we have together. I think it's safe to say I'm giving up on whiskey. I had some last Saturday - one of my favourite ones too - Famous Grouse - and halfway thru my glass I felt a little sick and trying to finish it became a bit of a chore. So yeah. I haven't drunk in so long that I think I'm losing my taste for it.
2) Be more vigilant with my skin care regime. He shouldn't have to settle for kissing sandpaper when he can have silken tofu. (He swears there's nothing wrong with my skin, but I KNOW DIFFERENT - I can feel it!)
3) Ask BIKSS how he would feel about my kneeling when we meet instead of just before he leaves. I think it would help both of us get into the zone much more easily. (I only put it down here cos I know he reads this blog, and I kept forgetting to mention it to him today!)
Right....
I am SUCH a night person! "H" hates that I want to be in bed watching TV, ipod or on my laptop until all hours of the morning. I could easily do 3am, but now with babies, it's hard and I just want sleep in general.
ReplyDeleteFunny thing about the hair.. "H" has done this to me in public before and I always have a turn of excitement in my stomach when he does it. I wear braids most of the time on weekends and besides being swatted in public (In Target or Walmart) he has given them a pull in fun, pretending to be demanding.
I think he secretly would enjoy being a Dom if I can break Him out of his shell.
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oh, he's already enjoying it I believe. he just has trouble accepting it i think. they're LIKE THAT you know?
Deletebesides... doesn't he already swat your behind when you misbehave? That's Dom enough for me.
At nearly 50, and for the first time in my life, I now have a bedtime. I have to be in bed by 10 pm. I actually feel quite rested, but it is difficult to get started. Good luck. :)
ReplyDeletesigh... I know it will be good for me. I feel so much better when I get enough sleep. It's just something inside that doesn't understand this at 5am in the morning. It only makes sense the next morning when I'm walking about with a coffee cup and trying NOT to look like a zombie.
Delete3 AM! That's a time I have hardly ever been awake.
ReplyDeleteBut since you work till 9 PM, you could say you live with a shift of about 4 hours compared to the rest of the world, who all stop working at about 5 PM.
That makes 3 AM as a bedtime understandable.
Very handy to wear your hair in a pony tail.
exactly. I start and end later than the regular work day. And I am delighted that you agree with the fairness of 3am.
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Another night time person here, although to function reasonably for work i make an effort to be in bed by 1am but it depends on the bossman i am not permitted to stay up later than him but thats ok as mostly he is a night owl as well and we usually end up falling asleep on the sofa!
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ah but when you don't have to work till 2 in the afternoon, would you be so eager to crawl into bed early?
Deletenope so i see your point, one thing i love about winter is being up late and then getting to lie in the morning snuggly under the duvet and not have to get out of bed...unfortunatley those moments are rare!
DeleteFriday and Saturday nights if im allowed (its a privilage that i have to earn) then i will stay up to the early hours as i dont have to work the next day.
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see? i'm not the only one who's got the vampire gene.
DeleteMy wife has the vampire gene as well. She could stay up all night, but not me. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteHug,
joey
There's just something about the stillness of the night that i find so comforting.
DeleteWOW..you have been busy and having fun while I was away. You two have come so far....love the post on your full day together!
ReplyDeleteI used to be a night person, now not so much, but I will never be a morning person...master sent me a bedtime once, for one night, I missed it by 30 minutes...LOL.
hugs abby
I hate bedtimes but i'm very relieved to have one if u know what i mean.
DeleteIt isnt something i can be disciplined about on my own - yet. My goal is to be able to set one n stick to it myself. Not because BIKSS said so.
I have never had trouble going to bed on time. in fact the last few weeks I have been going earlier and earlier. (I am trying to lose weight, and sometimes it's just easiest to go to bed). But a time to be in bed, like 3, sounds like a good way to keep track of your health!
ReplyDeleteGood plan- sleep, don't eat!
DeleteMe? I'm lousy with going to bed. It's always "one more episode" or "10 more minutes" or "one more round of zuma" !