Review ?

I got an email. From a webstore that sells toys.

It's called Paloqueth. I've never heard of it. But they wrote to ask if I would do some reviews.

I think you can sign up to be a reviewer, an influencer... or whatever. But since they came looking for me, I thought I might give it a go.

This is kinda exciting. It's time to earn that Sex Blogger title! LOL

So stay tuned. Let's see where this takes me. :)

Top 100 Sex Blogs 2018

I got an email late one night, Sunday I think it was. It was Julie letting me know that I'm on Miss Molly's 100 Sex Blogs list. 

It was past 1am and I didn't have anyone to tell. BIKSS was already in bed too, and I was supposed to have been in dreamland way before. But the flu and recovering from it threw my body clock all out of whack - which is how I came to be awake when the email notification came. 

I remember seeing the list some years back. And I thought to myself - gosh what would it take to be on that chart. These people must be fantastic writers, knowledgeable, well-read; they must really know their stuff - I bet they're out there running workshops and participating in forums. I always thought they were in a whole different league. 

So imagine the shock (and horror too!) when I read Julie's email. Me? OH CRAP. This means I have to actually write stuff now. I mean, REAL stuff. After about 15 seconds the panic subsided and I went over to look at the post. 

Breathe in. Breathe out. OK, nothing to worry about. Let's just accept this one, be thankful, (gush a little while writing a thank-you comment... ok... breathe in, breathe out...) and then try and get some sleep! 

Now that I've told BIKSS, and I've gotten all the crazy out of my system, I just wanted to say THANK YOU to whoever it was who nominated me. And thank you all for reading and interacting with me on this blog, even when I have NOTHING sex-related to talk about. Thank you for giving me the chance to share everything that goes on in my head here. 

*For the record, I still think they're in a whole different league!*

Liebster Award

A huge thanks to AtiyaLuv for nominating me for the Liebster Award!

Unfortunately I haven't been reading much nor taking part in much of blogland's activities, so I don't feel qualified to nominate anyone for the award. 

If you would like to read other blogs that interest me, have a look at the blogroll to the right --->

I *will* answer the questions she posted for her nominees tho...

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1.  Do you believe in LDR (long distance relationships?)

- I had one. He cheated on me. So the answer to that is NO.

2.  Have you ever thought about writing a book of any kind?

- I *have* thought about it. Never figured out what it would be about so that idea kinda got chucked out.

3.  Do you like to travel, have you traveled and where have you traveled to?

- Yes / Yes / and various places in Asia, New Zealand, Australia, USA (California / Hawaii) and Europe (Italy, Germany, France, Austria).

4.  Do you enjoy what you do for a living?  if you do not, would you rather be doing something else? like what?

- I do. Tremendously!

5.  Do you speak more than one Language? if you do, what are they?

- English, Chinese, Malay

6.  If you could have a sit down with any famous person who would it be, and why?

- Bill Cosby. Cos I think he's awesome.

7.  Do you have a role model?

- I can't say I do.

8.  Would you move to a new country, and start all over for love?

- I tend not to date people whom I know will be leaving the country so that I won't have to think about what will happen when they do. But I don't know if I would if I were already involved with someone. 

9.  Any Guilty Pleasure?  (what are those?)

-BIKSS

10.  Pet peeves?

- Too many to list.

11.  Why did you start blogging?

- Cos I enjoy writing... and truth be told, I was reading up on D/s and TTWD and kinda got sucked into the community. And such a LOVELY one it is!

Me? Inspiring?

Apparently I'm inspiring enough that I got nominated by a few people for the 

The Rules:

1. Display the award logo on your blog  

2. Link back to the person who nominated you 

3. State 7 things about yourself 

4. Nominated 15 other bloggers for this award & link to them 

5. Notify those bloggers & the award's requirements 

So here it is :

#1 - Done

#2 - Elle / Mrs D / Tori (so far, that I know of - Thank you, ladies!)
[More nominations came in later from Cassaundra and Young Lady - thank you both!]

#3 - See below

#4 and #5 - I'm blatantly ignoring this part of the award. I'm sorry if this means the chain dies here... but I've tried doing this in the past and ended up feeling so guilty leaving some people out... so I would like to say to everyone I read (---> on my blogroll on my right) that this is an open invitation to take part in this VIBA exercise too!

And here are my 7 things:

1) I like watching musicals - Sound of Music, West Side Story, Grease, Pirates of Penzance ...

2) I ended up collecting Winnie the Pooh paraphernalia by accident.

3) I would teach even if I didn't need the money.

4) I love my house - it is my sanctuary, and I'm convinced its spirit has a hold on me!  All of my boyfriends since I moved in have been of the "my house is off-limits" variety, for one reason or another, so I've never had to spend the night away from my own bed in the "stay-over at the boyfriend's place" way.

5) I make an awesome layer cake (sorry about this one, I'm in baking mode at the moment).

6) I dislike parents who make excuses for their kids. You're not doing them any favours!

7) I think donuts are the best food on earth!

And BIKSS knows that it's my weakness. So when he wants to make me feel special, in lieu of flowers, he brings me a bouquet of donuts! And then I swoon. :)

Can You Feel The Love Tonight?

UPDATE: M3 wanted me to let you know she says hi -->


Hi Fondles,

I have actually managed to get into gmail,though I have no idea for how long as it is blocked in this country.  Could you please let willie and others know that all is good, I have been behaving myself rather well...with a few slip ups! 

so much to do, so not a lot of time to be thinking about slipping up ..will be posting hopefully on the 1st december, hope all is well with you and everyone else in blogland, thinking of you all often

Hugs


********** and now, on with the post *********

OK, with all the Liebster (Loved One) Awards going around, and my mind stuck on Disney stuff (for the workshops we're doing in school), I couldn't help the title of this post. 

Now, on to business. First - thank you to Aisha , Rogue , Blue Bird , Renee Rose and Ward & June for nominating me for the Liebster Awards.

Here are the rules:

• When one receives the award, one posts 11 random facts about oneself and answers the 11 questions asked by the person who nominated you.
• Pass the award onto 11 other blogs (while making sure one notifies the blogger that one nominated them!)
• One writes up 11 NEW questions directed towards YOUR nominees.
• One is not allowed to nominate the blog who nominated one’s own blog!
• One pastes the award picture into ones blog. (You can google the image, there are plenty of them!)

Since I received them all over a 24-hour period, I shall try and answer all the question in this post- altho Rogue did only post 10.  

First Aisha's:

1.  Who was your most important role model?

Mum. For a long time she's all I ever wanted to be. Now it scares me that I'm the most like her among all my siblings.

2.  What’s your favorite meal?

NY crust pizza. It's almost impossible to get it here. Thin and floppy pizza. Yummm!

3.  What one food would you NEVER eat?

The stuff listed HERE - not for the squeamish.

4.  What do you like best about being kinky?

That I'm not stuck in the mainstream. I've always been a bit of a rebel. I'm not sure which is the result of which, or if they're all just interlinked on a lateral plane. I hate commuting at regular work times with the rest of the world in crowded trains. I cannot bear fighting with lunch crowds for a mid day meal. I thrive on forming my own opinions and standing up for what I believe in, and loathe the guy who will sit and gripe and grumble and make a huge fuss but won't stand up when opportunity knocks. 

A more traditional design

5. Do you have a hobby?  What is it?

I sew beaded shoes... when I used to have time - blame Blogland. Haven't finished a pair in years. The one I have going on now has been sitting in its frame for about 4 years. Mine aren't anywhere as intricate as I prefer less gaudy, non-floral patterns. I sway towards geometric patterns, diamonds, lines and 'V' shapes altho traditionally the designs are mostly flowers, animals (birds / phoenix / goldfish - all with their own symbolism as per the Peranakan culture) and fruit - I'm not kidding, oranges, basket of fruit, strawberries and cherries etc.

6.  Is there a sexual position you haven’t tried that you’d like to?

There are more than a few I haven't tried... but nothing that I particularly WANT to.

7.  When was the last time you danced with someone?

I think the last time I danced WITH anyone might have been with BIKSS actually, last year, at a friend's birthday celebration at a pub/club type of place. Incidentally, that was also the FIRST time in the 23 years I'd known him (at that point) that I'd danced with him. 

8.  Were you in a clique in high school?  Which one?

The one with power. There were 4 of us girls. One Vice-head Prefect, one regular prefect, one class Treasurer and me - I was the resident music geek.

9.  If you could live in any time era, which one would you pick, and why?

I'm gonna say to a time when life was simpler and gender roles were more clearly defined. When girls were girls, and boys were boys.

10.  Do you prefer giving or receiving oral sex?  Why?

Giving. I put my hand up to be CWS #1 for a reason :) Click on the link for a whole essay on WHY.

11.  If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?

I can't name you a place but I can paint you a picture. Beachfront, lots of open grass, floor to ceiling windows, furnished in glass and chrome, with accents in every shade of purple, fresh cut Easter lilies in a tall vase, and the scent of vanilla and chocolate chip cookies in the air. Oh and I'm taking my bed with me. It's ultra comfy and I wouldn't give it up for anything!

And now Rogue's:

1.  What is the first thing you notice about a man you just met?

His hands. I like manly hands. 

2.  What celebrity do you resemble?

I've been told by a friend I look like Devon Aoki - the lips are about right. And the cats' eyes. And I often wear my hair back in a ponytail that way too. 

3.  What is one thing you swore you would never do....and did?

I mentioned this in a post a while ago... I swore I'd never get involved with a married man... look at me now.

4.  How tall are you?

1.65m / 5 ft 5 in

5.  What color is the underwear you have on right now?

I'm not wearing any. I've got on some sleep-shorts from VS in lemon yellow.

6.  Are your dreams in color or black and white?

I've had both.

7.  Are you a morning person or night owl?

Definitely a night owl

8.  What is your nickname?

Um, I'm gonna pass on this one. Anonymity and all that, you know...

9.  If you could go back in time, where would you go?

To when I was 15 and I had just met BIKSS. I'd let him know how I felt about him way back then... instead of keeping mum about it and waiting for him to make a move. 

10.  What is the funniest thing you've ever heard a child say?

-- I really canNOT think of anything right now --

Here are Blue Bird's questions:

1. What did you want to be when you were little?
A teacher! Mission accomplished.

2. If you could meet someone famous who is still living who would it be?
OK I'm going to be shallow right about now and say Chace Crawford. (aka Nate Archibald in Gossip Girl)

3. If you could meet someone famous who was dead who would it be?
Mother Teresa

4. What kind of car do you drive?
I don't.

5. Where is your favorite spot in the world?
I honestly can't say cos I haven't seen enough spots to make an informed decision on the matter. But I do love travelling and seeing new places. So that's all I can say right now.

6. Is there one thing you wish you could change about yourself?
My gift for putting on weight by just looking at a plate of good food.

7. If you could get close and touch a wild animal, which one would you want to touch and why?
 A tiger in all its magnificence. They just look so stunning and imperial. And MEAN.

8. Do you like hot or cold weather?
Cold please.

9. Coffee or tea?
BOTH - Coffee in the morning, preferably a hazelnut latte, and tea anytime after 5pm - peppermint tea, green tea, regular (decaf) tea, any tea!

10. What is your favorite cuisine?
Thai.

11. What is your shoe size?
US 9

Now Renee Rose's lot of questions:

1) favorite implement
leather belt

2) favorite position
missionary - legs up, feet over his shoulders

3) What is your chosen vice
Blogging

4) What is your most unusual skill?
I don't know. No one's ever mentioned that I could do anything they can't. And anything I can do would seem usual to me until someone calls it otherwise.

5) How long have you been in a D/s relationship?
um, since the beginning of this blog - 6+ months?

6) How long have you been "into" spanking?
almost 20 years

7) favorite outfit for playtime
I like the corset. But BIKSS would probably like me "Nekkid" as he likes to always remind me. 

8) very first boy/girlfriend - what age, any details you remember, etc.
16. after O Levels. he was the first boy I kissed - a week before my 17th birthday. And that's as far as we got physically. 

9) which movie star/famous person you most resemble (physical or personality)
Devon Aoki - I've been told. See above.

10) what you order at Starbucks 
Ice tall hazelnut frappuccino with whip cream and chocolate drizzle, no lid.

11) favorite flavor of ice cream
good old fashioned vanilla


OK Here are the questions from June and Ward

1. What is your favorite pizza topping?
CHEESE. I love cheese pizzas

2. What is your favorite eye color?
Green

3. Who is your favorite actor/actress?
Whoopi Goldberg

4. What is your favorite song to sing in the shower?
"Mary's Song" (Whatever He says) - from the musical "The Witness"

 

5. What is your favorite way to connect with your partner?
Cuddle and chat

6. Who is your favorite Author?
I have a few - J Evanovich / J Grisham / M Crichton / C Jacq 

7.  What is your favorite spanking memory?
The first time BIKSS laid beside me and I got maintenance with his arm wrapped around me and my face buried in his shoulder. He was making soothing sounds. I'm sure they must have been words but I forget now what he was saying. Only that it made me feel very safe.

8.  Who do you find inspirational?
My friends. Each one of the people I choose to surround myself with on a regular basis (my inner circle so to speak) has been and continues to be inspiring in their own way.

9.  What is your favorite article of clothing?
My Banyan Tree bathrobe - my sister gave it to me when she realised I was looking for one and she generously passed it on to me saying that while she liked it a ton, she doesn't have much use for it and would rather that it went to someone who would appreciate it. 

10.  If you could meet a famous person (living or dead), who would you have dinner with?
I can't say that anyone famous comes to mind. But I will say that I have never met my grandparents - any of them - so I'd like to be able to have a traditional sit down dinner (called tok-panjang in my culture) with them and my whole family together.

11.  If you could have any one wish, what would it be?
BIKSS. 'Nuff said.

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I know I'm supposed to nominate 11 blogs but the last time I participated in one of these Blog-love-taggings I ended up feeling so awful and missing some people out that I came back and nominated a second batch! 

SO I'm going to direct you to any of my Follow Fridays posts and you can go over to those blogs if you'd like to meet some bloggers that you may not have on your blogroll yet. OR just take a look at my own blogroll --->>

and go visit some of the people whom you don't already follow :)

Now, I believe I am supposed to leave you with 11 random bits of information about myself (like I don't already tell you EVERYTHING that goes on in my life...) but answering 5 sets of questions means you actually already got tons of info about me. Anyway, since I AM a piano teacher, here are some music-related tidbits about me:-

1. I taught my first music class when I was 9 - I had a music teacher who had great faith in me and had me teach the 7 and 8 year old classes.

2. I play piano better by ear than with a score. I learnt to play the flute, but never excelled in it. I played organ for Mass in church when I was 11 (and my feet couldn't even reach the pedals) all the way till I was in my mid 20s. That was the first time I touched an organ. During a church service. I was young, and I was daring.

3. I don't like listening to music. I can't switch my brain off and I start seeing notes and chords in my head.

4.  My favourite composer is Mozart but my favourite orchestral piece is Beethoven's Sym No 7 - Movt II - I fell in love with it the first time I heard it played at the concert hall when I was 17.

5. I get turned on by BIKSS whistling a tune and sending it to me on Whatsapp. 

6. Speaking of, I can't whistle. It's pathetic.

7. I love to sing. And I'm quite awesome at it. 

8. My first live solo performance was at a community D n D when I was 16. 

9. I have been in a total of 9 choirs. 

10. When I was in (the equivalent of) high school I knew more songs from my parents' generation than my own. It did NOT make me popular.

11. I got full marks on the Aural component of every test through high school.

I Love Unicorns! and Tuesday Toon #6

And yes, I know they're not real, and they don't exist, and they're mythical... but then, sometimes I think my existence isn't quite all that real either!

Let's leave the philosophising for another day, and get on with the MABU (Meta Awesomest Blog Unicorn) awards.

Award Rules are as follows:

1. Include the award logo somewhere in your blog.

2. Answer 10 questions you have about yourself.

3. Nominate 10 to 12 blogs you enjoy. Or you pick the number.

4. Pay the love forward: Provide your nominee’s link in your post and comment on their blog to let them know they’ve been included and invited to participate.

5. Pay the love back with gratitude and a link to the blogger(s) who nominated you.

I would like to say a huge Thank You to ReneeRose for nominating me. (I suspect she's just trying to win my affections so I'll continue supporting her stories over at Blushing Books *grin*. Nah, she wouldn't, I'm jus' messin' with y'all!) I'm glad you think of me as part of your posse!! That's really quite awesome! 

Also, a humble Thank You to Mrs. Soft Bottom who includes me in a list of blogs which "I have been reading since I began exploring TTWD. I owe a lot of where we are to them." Sheesh. I feel as if I'm still fumbling in the dark myself! But nonetheless, I am happy that I can provide some insight through my musings and experiences. 

So er, I assume "Answer 10 Questions" means "share 10 things about yourself" so here goes nothing : (I can't remember what I wrote in the Lovely Blogger Awards list so you might have heard some of these...although I'll try my darndest to think up new stuff about me so you don't all roll your eyes and fall asleep halfway through.)

1. I like my wines sweet and white. If they're fizzy, even better. Arbor Mist Zinfadels, Rheinhessens and Rieslings, Moscatos and Ciennas (Brown Brothers preferred, but I don't mind any brand).

2. I'm constantly battling with food cos I love eating, but my body doesn't know how to use up everything I consume so I end up putting on weight WAY too easily! LOL. This is why I swim and walk and try and try to maintain my weight. (Never mind trying to lose any.)

3. I am addicted to Hazelnut Latte - cold. I don't do hot drinks. 

4. Unless it's in the middle of the night and I'm craving some comfort - then I reach for some hot chocolate.

5. I love reading - and prefer the feel of a real book in my hands to an e-reader. 

6. I'm the Duchess of Procrastination (only because Aisha lays claim to the Queenship).  

7. I'm a believer in the Laws of Attraction. If you haven't seen it yet, go get your hands on the DVD, The Secret; or the book, or the audio book. 

8. I'm passionate about things. I tend to be very extreme in my emotions.  

9. I get annoyed when people who don't know me try and tell me how to live my life. Heck, I get annoyed even if they DO know me and try and tell me how to live my life. Hmmm. Let me rephrase that. I hate it when people tell me how to live my life. (Have I made this loud and clear yet?) /Laughs

10. I'm addicted to spanking and TTWD - I may even be skewed towards DD. (Does it count as sharing information if it's already stuff you know?)

Right, so I'm supposed to link 10-12 blogs but I can't. I really cannot. I did it the last time and felt so bad at leaving some people out that I added another list just cause everyone I follow is clearly Awesome in my books! 

So go look at the blogroll to the right --->  and pick a blog you don't already follow - then go over there and say hi and introduce yourself. Tell the person you're visiting for the first time, and let them know you got there via this post. Then ask them to come over here and do the same.

Or, you can copy and paste this: (I am so Full Of Myself today... Muah-Ha-Ha)

"Fondles is too darn lazy to pick blogs for the MABU (Meta Awesomest Blog Unicorn) awards so she sent me over to say Hi. Go visit her, then pick a blog of your own from her blogroll and introduce yourself the way I'm doing now."

/Waves. I'm outta here guys. BIKSS is picking me up to go and have coffee. I suppose we need to go on a date outside the bedroom once in a while. Heh. TTFN. 

Also, I forgot to post yesterday's Tuesday Toon (fine, it's not really a toon) so I'm gonna post it here: 

Lovely Blog Award

Bella at DD and D/s named me in her One Lovely Blog Award list.

*Curtsies* Thank you dear. So these are the rules (should you choose to play along...)

The One Lovely Blog Rules of Acceptance

- Thank the person/people who nominated you and link back to them in your post.
- Share seven possibly unknown things about yourself.
- Nominate fifteen or so bloggers you admire.
- Contact the chosen bloggers to let them know and link back to them.

7 Possibly Unknown Things About Myself 

1. I love Mozart sonatas - both to play as well as listen to
2. I am allergic to aloe vera
3. I drink coffee (especially love a hazelnut latte) but can't stand anything coffee-flavoured
4. I love anything chocolate-flavoured but don't care for actual chocolate as a confection
5. Unless it's Reece's pieces - which I can never have too much of
6. I am afraid of flying things - birds, butterflies, bees, moths
7. and I do enjoy my whisky & soda

And here are 15 of my favourite blogs : (this might seem repetitive since I just did a post of blogs I love to visit, so I've also tried to include some others...)

Aisha
Kitty - The Submissive Wife
Conina @ Exploring Surrender
Faerie learns to fly
Slightly Naughty Princess
Poppy's Submissions
Renee Rose ~ Closet Girl
Sweet Surrender by the other Kitty
Mrs Soft Bottom's Life Under a Firm Hand
Smiling Belle's Journey
Down the Rabbit Hole
Lil's Submissive Sanctuary
Riley's Vanilla Extract
A Dauntless Journey
Leather Cuffs and Silken Bonds

You don't have to play along and continue this thread... no one's gonna spank you if you don't, but if you do, come back and let me know that you did!