Facials, Food and Fun

It's gonna be one of those mish-mash posts with jumps in the timeline. Which is similar to a lot of my posts really. But let's start with Friday night dinner.

We ate at a Nepalese place - FIRST TIME! - and it looked very much like Indian food, except for the momo - which looked like Chinese pot stickers. Just a lot bigger. We had chicken and fish tikka, and some prawn thing, plus a cauliflower dish - tasted like curry but I could be mistaken. It's really pretty good! 

 

Chicken, fish, and steamed momo

Prawns and cauliflower

We then went to a 24 hour grocery / hypermart thing that's known for its cheap stuff, hard-to-get old brands and weird 'sell-a-vision' products. 

I ended up getting shampoo, laundry sanitizer, and baking paper... just usual stuff, but also, 4711 towelettes that I haven't laid eyes on since I was in primary school! ($2.50 for a pack of 10.)

I also picked up some cheaper than usual facial cleansers, Pond's Cold Cream (cleansing cream) and a bunch of deodorant sprays. 

Right. Speaking of Pond's cold cream, that's the thing my mum used to diligently slather on her face every night no matter how tired she was or how late the hour. I decided that I should just go back to basics cos my face was complaining!

Since my Monday facial I've noticed that my skin has been horrible. The face oil and moisturizer that the clinic gave me (for healing and soothing sensitive skin *pfft*) weren't helping to heal or soothe one bit. My skin was drier than usual, the pores were huge, and my face felt awful. By Friday I had completely given up and switched back to my usual ECO Essentials Vit C oil (which is no longer available but they have an all in one oil now which will probably work just as well) AND did a bunch of research on a brand I had been wanting to switch over to - Beauty of Joseon - which I had written about before. I've since chucked out the clinic-provided oil and cream and switched over to the BoJ Revive Serum (ginseng+snail mucin) ...

... and Dynasty Cream. The magic ingredient? GINSENG!

From their website - 

What it is

This is Beauty of Joseon's first product, 'Dynasty Cream', which has been loved by many for quite a long time. With its firm texture, it provides dense moisture and nourishment preventing skin from drying out even after long hours.

It is a multi-functional cream containing rice bran water, ginseng water, squalane, and niacinamide for skin health, moisture, and to maintain the oil and moisture balance.

Its firm texture provides moisture and nourishment from deep within.

Long-lasting moisture

Containing 2% niacinamide and 2% squalane, it balances oil and moisture and protects skin from external stimuli.

So is ginseng all that it's hyped up to be? Can it work miracles? Studies seem to think so - 

"Panax ginseng (aka red ginseng) and ginsenosides have shown to prevent aging of skin. Two separate clinical trials indicated that ginseng extract improved facial wrinkling."

"Ginseng, an ancient Chinese herb widely used in Eastern medicine, has been studied for its anti-aging properties., and has been shown to have beneficial effects with regards to anti-inflammation, anti-oxidation, cardiovascular regulation, neurological improvement, anti-tumor, skin protection and immune modulation."   from HERE. 

and : 

"The main active ingredient in ginseng is ginsenoside, and its effects on the skin are mostly anti-aging and whitening. Ginseng extract regulates the levels of matrix metalloproteinases in human fibroblast type I collagen to improve the elasticity and water content of skin. In addition, ginseng inhibits the transcription factors or signaling pathways involved in the formation of melanin, it exerts a whitening effect. "  from HERE. 

And yes. It made a difference. Visible enough that my caregiver looked at me on Sat morning and said that my skin looked bright and hydrated! 

The other thing I've picked up recently is the Edelweiss Liquid Peel from The Body Shop. It's a gommage peel and works like an exfoliator, but a super gentle one. None of those harsh facial scrubs (hands up if you're thinking of the St Ives Apricot Scrub) or peel-off charcoal masks (which, as one Youtuber described it, is just one huge pore strip for the face - and likely to peel off the top layer of your skin along with the blackheads!)

Since I was feeling so dehydrated on Friday afternoon I actually stuck a sheet mask on my face (something I don't usually do) that my caregiver passed back to me (one of the samples I had given her previously).  I felt heaps better after that. I figured I should pick up a few more for the time being while I'm trying to nurse my skin back to health. And guess what, we found some edelweiss serum masks at cheap store galore.

Edelweiss apparently is another one of those anti-ageing ingredients with super antioxidant properties.

BUT since it's going to get expensive (even tho it only cost me $2 a sheet) if I'm going to make it a regular thing (for both of us - BIKSS needs it more than I do if you ask me - more on that later) I did some research and found a reusable silicone mask online for also $2. You just stick whatever serum you want on your face (which is a better idea, imo cos that way you get to choose) and then place the mask over it and lie back for 15 mins. 

Wash, dry, re-use. No packaging waste, sheet mask waste, or product waste - there's always a ton of serum left in the pack which I try and use up but there's just so much!

And so I am now trying my darndest to finish using up all my other products in tandem with the current ginseng skin-savers, and then switch my entire skincare line over to BoJ. I'd love to get some of the Edelweiss range from The Body Shop but their stuff is just way too pricey. So after I'm done with this bottle I might just switch back to the BoJ gommage peel.

OK, so back to shopping. I found a huge roll of disposable cotton facial wipes (that look something like this - Shein sells them too) for about $5. I'd been looking for these for some time - for use with facial cleansers - but since I now have my Pond's Cold Cream as well, they'll be great for that too! The catch - not so great for the environment, but hey, at least I'm saving on those sheet masks. Plus, better for the skin than tissues, AND they're washable and reuasble to some degree. Maybe 2-3 uses per sheet. 

Here's one from Amazon that costs a bomb - but I'm just showing it to you for the description :

Anyway, when we got back from shopping I chucked BIKSS in bed and grabbed that Edelweiss peel to get rid of the gunk on his face. He was quite amused at the little bits of stuff that rubbed off. I took a pic for him to see what he looked like. 

After that I stuck a sheet mask on him, to soothe and hydrate. And while he was lying there with his eyes closed I grabbed a warm towel and wiped Roger down then proceeded to give him a BJ while I played some spa music on Youtube.

The deal was that he wasn't supposed to make any expression with his face while the mask was on. He accepted the challenge and I must say he was doing a pretty good job of it ... until I decided I wanted in on the fun too! 

So I took the mask off him, had him pat his skin to use up / spread out whatever liquid was left and then announced that I wanted to play too! LOL

And so it came to pass that BIKSS got a facial and BJ at the same time. I mean, he did suffer the crowd and traipsing up and down at the megastore with me. And I *know* it isn't one his favourite places to be. The least I could do was thank him for it. ;)

I could do with some chips right now! Enjoy!

The Post Worktrip Reunion (Part 2)

Part 1 can be found here.

When we got home he had me in the shower where I carefully removed my plug. It was all good. No harm no foul. 

I was still horny as anything. But that little adventure seemed to have tempered my libido somewhat. 

After towelling off we headed straight for some long-awaited cuddles. 

But that soon led to blowjob city. While he was watching the OM instructional video preoperly (cos he didn't get a chance to watch all of it before) I decided to ease some of the discomfort in his balls and ever-hardening cock. Oh wait. I think I might have been responsible for causing the hard-ship in the first place. *wink*

It was decided that he would have a cum first, so as not to prolong his agony (who cares about mine tho, right?) and after that he could OM me properly. Well, he's not a nasty fuck. I was the one who suggested it. Cos I'm a caring sub that way. :)

It didn't take too much effort for him to cum as he had also been orgasm-less during my no-cum period. I must say I was very touched that he abstained from cumming too, and chose to wait for me. I made a right mess with saliva dripping off him every-bluddy-where, so I towelled him off with a warm face cloth. We then we got into our OM positions and he proceeded to touch my very tingly, very horny, very needy lady bits. Ah, this is what I've been waiting for!

Eventually we gave up trying to follow the instructions (where to stroke, where to place the thumb) and just had a long and delightful session of touching, and fingering, and rubbing. It was made more exciting (and heightened the sense of submission) for me cos if you remember the OM position, he left leg is smack across my body. This meant I couldn't wiggle out from my position and my pussy was at his mercy. I'm sure this doesn't count as bondage per se. But I was definitely bound.

And I was going insane with needing to cum. 

So I finally asked him if I could have my vibe. 

He assisted;  finger(s) in pussy; heel of his palm resting and pressing against my vibe pushing on my clit. I think he had my nipples in his mouth too, but I can't be sure. I was only feeling the wonderful sensations on my deprived clit. 

I was going to cum, a great big cum, I could feel it, and I couldn't stop it. And I didn't even need to tense my muscles (he mentioned it after, and I said, well yeah, I kinda didn't need to!). It just rolled across my entire vulva, starting from the top and moving downwards and outwards. Yes. I know that isn't the most poetic description. But that's what it felt like. 

Daddy didn't need an invitation. He climbed on top of me and dived right into my pulsating pussy. 

I screamed with each thrust. I don't know whether it was because the contractions in my vagina were just so intense from that cum, or that we hadn't had sex in two weeks, but I felt full and bursting and it was amazing. 

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At the end of the whole evening tho, what mattered the most to me wasn't the great sex, the long-awaited cum, or even that we were celebrating 7 years of nooky. What I really loved about this whole exercise / episode was being able to submit and obey; being of service, and giving him pleasure; making him laugh and amusing him with my wit and tongue (no not just in that way... but yes, also in that way!) and most of all - giving him the opportunity to be the Daddy Dom that he is. 

Getting Old and LCL

That's right. LCL. Not LDL - the bad cholesterol that everyone knows about ... LCL - lateral collateral ligament.

Last night I sat watching telly with one leg crossed over the other knee. Like this. 

And when I got up to go to the loo I couldn't walk. It hurt. Shooting pain. After a while I managed to put a little weight on it and I managed to hobble to the loo and back. Thankfully it was bedtime so I crawled into bed and let out a sigh of relief. I'll go to sleep, I thought, and tomorrow morning when I wake up I'll be good as new. It's happened to me once or twice before, and the pain has always gone away in an hour or so, I reassured myself.

I figured with a whole 6 hours' rest ... well, nothing to worry about right? 

Wrong. 

When I woke up the pain was still there - possibly worse than those previous times because of the stiffness in the joint from being asleep and not moving.

The doctor (aka my boss) said it was an LCL strain (you're not getting any younger, that's why...). An anti-inflam should do the trick... or I could just suffer the pain while it heals. 

I decided that would be the smarter thing to do. I didn't want to pop pills cos if I don't feel the pain it's likely I'll over-exert and make it even worse. This way I have a constant reminder NOT to stress my knee further! 

It worked. I was really good all day. (Except for mopping the floor... but it was terribly FILTHY!)

Anyway in the evening after Daddy's thing he came by to take me out for a drive. I needed to get out of the house. Well, not really. It's more of a mental thing. It's not like I've been cooped up for days, or that I haven't stayed home all afternoon before. I wasn't stuck indoors any longer than I usually am - and mostly by choice too! 

But it was just knowing that I shouldn't go galavanting that was making me sick of being stuck at home (I use "stuck" loosely LOL).  So I headed to the car and off we went. And then I got hit by a chocolate cake craving. 

It took some driving around but he was determined to get some chocolate cake in me. I was whining and being sad cos my knee hurt and I neeeeed chocolate cake. (Note: A busted knee is a GREAT excuse for eating cake!)

"Let's try that special Japanese bakery in Chinatown," he suggests.

 "But it's 9:52 now, it closes at 10!" 

"It's right up ahead and the carpark's just behind it - let's live a little!" He grinned!

He left me in the car and made a dash for it. It was 9:56. But by the time he got there they had already begun shutting down for the day. He texted and asked if I wanted a muffin. Nah. Cake, please. What about blackforest cake? Nah. Chocolate, please. 

He came back to the car and we drove to an area known for having shops open till late-ish... no luck. All the food in the world, but no cake shop.

Eventually we went somewhere we KNEW had good cake... only it was a little out of the way which is why we didn't head straight there in the first place. And there was ONE LAST PIECE of blueberry chocolate cake sitting on the lazy susan in the display fridge. Well, it wasn't there for very long. 

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Here's me in the car with a ketoprofen patch on my knee, and some yummy cake on my lap. 

It was totally worth the hunt.

Daddy Gifts

My Hong Bao from BIKSS

Littles like gifts. They don't have to be BIG gifts. Or expensive gifts. Just meaningful gifts.  Like...

... chocolate milk which he sneaks into the fridge ... 

--- a lucky hong bao for me to stuff into my wallet (right) --- 

... a unicorn wall poster for Valentine's Day which hasn't arrived yet ... 

---ferrying me all over the place to do my "things" ---

So for all my gifts, all the time, THANK YOU Daddy BIKSS.

Corner-Time for Daddy BIKSS

1. Corner Time

Yes you heard me right.

I put Daddy in the corner last night.

He'd been so awesome at helping me with the home fixes and the redecorating and picture-frame project that I thought I needed to put him in the corner - you know, turn Friday into a Dom-appreciation day.

Oh no, our corner doesn't look like this --

You see, I have always wanted a corner armchair. I like how it immediately makes the bedroom look so relaxed and inviting. So during my latest visit to a Swedish DIY furniture store, I picked up a beige curved back chair and stuck it in the corner. 

That's a pic I stole off the net. But you get the idea. 

I put Daddy in the Blowjob Chair (that's what I've been calling it) and lay a rug in front of him. I knelt before his cock and gave him the best blowjob ever - for me, that is!

After he came, he stayed in his Blowjob Chair resting, while I remained kneeling and we talked about what Doms do while their subs are kneeling for them. 

I'm curious - we usually chat, tell each other about our day, or he'll be messing about on his gadgets, or I'll be crying (if I'm upset and come to him crying I sometimes end up in a kneeling position), and he'll be soothing me. 

Or I could be kneeling/ sitting on my calves beside him while we watch telly or surf the net on the coffee table lappy (yes that's my entertainment hub!), in which case we'll both be facing the same direction and not each other. 

But I'm wondering, do any of you have kneeling time where NOTHING is happening? no conversation or kissing or tv watching? And if so, what's it like? Do you just kneel somewhere your Dom has pointed to on the floor with a blank mind while he ignores you and goes about his business? Do you kneel beside him doing nothing while he chats on the fone or reads a book? I assure you I do not intend to offend nor is there any malice to be found in my question - I'm just CURIOUS!

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2. WET

"Put him in your mouth again..."

I did. 

He placed his hand on my head and bobbed me up and down his cock. 

"You wanted to go and shower didn't you?"

"Mm hmm..."

Still sucking on Roger.

"Get on the bed first."

I did.

"Ahh, she's wet for me. My pussy's ready for me isn't she?"

"Mmff... *gasp*... yes she is. She got wet from the first blowjob."

"Good."

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3. Nipple Therapy

*Sucking on my left nipple.*

"So this nipple therapy... how would it work? Would it be bad form for the recipient to make sounds? You know, those mmmm-ing noises?"

"It wouldn't be bad form. The rooms would be soundproof. And she would have a masquerade mask on, if she prefers anonymity."

"And the therapist would be lying on her? Beside her?"

"She would have a choice. If she wanted to lay on her side, he would stretch out alongside her like I'm doing now..."

*I make a small turn and lie on my back.*

"What about if she prefers to lie this way?"

"Then he would climb on top of her, straddle her and lean forward like this."

*He takes my other nipple hostage between his lips. And I moan.* 

"Would he be wearing some sort of crotch-guard? So she couldn't feel his erection?"

"I guess that would be the safe thing to do."

*I reach towards his cock with my hands.*

"You're wearing shorts!"

"These should come off."

*He gets up to remove his shorts, my eyes remain closed, and then I feel him on the bed once more.*

He pulls my legs apart and fucks me hard. I guess that's the end of my nipple therapy session.

Dom-appreciation has its rewards. 

A Very Dommy FF

We hear so much about the D/s life (TTWD / DD / etc) from the sub's point of view that when a Dom pops his head out to say something it's like the world stops turning for a little while. Don't get me wrong. I LOVE it when Doms write. So in honour of Doms everywhere, I declare today Dom-Appreciation (Follow Fri)-Day. 

It's been a while since we heard anything from Jake but it's good to see everything's ok. He popped in about a week ago with an update. Here's A Modicum of Patience over at LCSB. (The site format's been fixed too, and updated with a new look!)

Spanky at Bright Bottom wrote about how he feels about women with ink. I think he should write more often, instead of just sharing pics. But that's just me. Not to say I don't like the pics. I do. But I love the way he writes. But ok. I'll shut up now.  

I've always loved how-to's and guides... so I enjoyed Joey's first ("Safe") in a series of 4 (I'm assuming) posts entitled SAFE, SANE, CONSENSUAL AND PLATONIC. Can't wait to read the rest.

Speaking of safety, I think Grand is new to Blogland (or at least, a couple of his blogs seem new), but definitely not inexperienced. Here's a good reminder piece on safewords. Hmmm, how about I change mine to "Please let me suck your cock"... what? Bad idea? Bah... everyone's a critic.

And DV was so kind as to give me shout-out in his post The Fear of a Dominant, where he divulges that *gasp* Doms are human too! *looks furtively around*

Well, there you have it. Doms who write.

(I haven't decided if I should capitalise the D in Dom/dom or not... I'm inconsistent with this and it's driving me crazy!)

Snippets - Muffins, A Holey Top, and Cosmo was Right

It's Monday. And I wanted to give BIKSS a treat for agreeing to lug back a new shelving unit for my music room. 

So I made a batch of fruitcake muffins. From the great fruitcake massacre of last week. It was a slight disaster so I salvaged what I could off the burnt sides and chucked them in whisky, added raisins and made these. 

We also had some chocolate cookie muffins from yesterday's batch. (I wanted to use up the bits of chocolate and chocolate cookies I had lying around) and he decided that the little dollop of whip on the top wasn't quite enough. 

So his ended up looking like this:

The man likes his cream. What can I say right?

Now here's a little something I picked up while wandering the mall today, waiting for BIKSS to get off work and pick me up. It cost a little bit more than I would usually spend but hey, it's SO flattering. And BIKSS thinks it's nice too! I just like see-thru, holey things! (That's the exhibitionist in me talking.)

We detoured to pick up the shelves, came back and assembled them. Then I sorted and reorganised my stuff and emptied the old drawer unit for chucking. I fed him some shark-fin melon soup then we stuffed our faces with muffins! 

When all that was done, he shooed me into the room for a yummy hand spanking while I read last year's horoscope to him - the one in which it was predicted that I would meet a bad boy in the middle of March and be smitten! Seems Cosmo was right after all!

Oh, and I couldn't let him leave before I said Hello to Roger now could I?

*Wink*

Monday Musings

It's been a while since I wrote - mostly cos I've been busy with baking more cakes to sell to friends.

Yes, I've decided that I will officially be baking and selling my layer cakes all year round now, and not just during the festive season. 

It'll be a good way to keep me occupied, and I like baking anyway. It's therapeutic. Slapping on layer after mindless layer of batter doesn't require any thinking. I can switch my brain off for an hour or so while I bake, and it's fun thinking up new flavours to add to the basic recipe.

I've finally bought myself a kitchen counter that I have dedicated solely to my baking endeavours. On it I've got my mixer and oven, and everything else bake-related is now happily housed on wire racks under it. BIKSS helped me put it together last Thursday, and of course because he's a man, at some point we had to undo the whole thing and actually look at the instructions and start over. He insists that's half the fun- trying to build something without first reading the manual. I'm not sure I share his point of view. But either way, I'm proud of myself for not making any fuss. As a matter of fact, I felt no stress, didn't feel inclined to say I-told-you-so... I think we're finally beginning to just flow naturally now... almost a year on. 

It seems like the D/s isn't something that's in focus anymore. I'm tempted to say it's not present. But I know that's not true. In fact, it's omnipresent. It's part of who we are. There's no issue of "getting into the right frame of mind" now, and I think that's a good thing. It's subconscious, and we're really enjoying each other in a way I've never experienced before in past relationships. I finally feel, um, calm. Yeah, that's a good word.

And the ONE big thing I've noticed about all this - the less I gripe and bitch and simply allow him to steer us on, the more likely he is to do his darnedest to keep me happy and meet my needs / wants. The key was just to trust that he's thinking and doing what's best for us - BOTH of us, not just himself! 

So what's a sub to do while her man's busy planning and sussing and thinking? 

Why, bake, of course! So in honour of Dom-appreciation day, we're having cottage pie for dinner, and eclairs for dessert. I hope he's hungry!

B for BIKSS

Thank You, My Love

~ for walkies

~ for date nights

~ for combing my hair

~ for coupons in the trunk

~ for printing out my music sheets

~ for letting me weep on your shoulder

~ for admitting you've hurt me and saying sorry

~ for wrapping me "in your arms" where it's so comfy

~ for already seeing me as the woman you envision for my future

~ for providing me with crazy hot sex and crazy giggling fits all in one night

~ for the big things, the small things, the everyday things, and the long term things

Diary of A Day of Decadence (Dom-Appreciation Day)

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"Love, Honour and Obey"

I used to scoff at these words. Really. 

I've played for a gazillion weddings in church and sat through many many vow exchanges. 

And every time they got to the "obey" part I would roll my eyes. At first when I was younger I would do it "in my head" and not actually make a face. As I grew older and became a little more daring, I would ACTUALLY roll my eyes, look over at some of my buddies in the choir and we'd be smirking or exchanging 'they're crazy' looks.

Um. Well. Guess the joke's on me then huh? 

LOL.

Following Cowgirl Up's latest post, I was just thinking that I should officially make Mondays Dom-appreciation day in this part of the world. It's one of the more regular BIKSS-visits days, so I could definitely make it work. 

The problem is, now I need some suggestions as to HOW I can commemorate it:

What would YOU do to show your Dom / HoH / Top you appreciate them (above and beyond the usual)?