NOT A to Z - K is for Potassium, L is for Labs, and M is for Medication

The renal doctor ran mum's labs again this week and her potassium has come back down to a decent level. He has also put her on a twice weekly resonium protocol to control her easily-skyrocketing potassium levels. 

We have a plan now. And that is good. 

She's been put on Valproate - when we last went to the geriatric clinic, and she is sleeping thru the night. 

This is also good. 

I have been put on oral contraceptives to elevate my oestrogen levels. The hot flushes are less frequent and for the first time in 2 months I have slept thru the night. Well, 6 hours anyway. Then I had to pee. 

But at least I wasn't waking up from sweats. 

My back has also been aching less. So that's an extra win for me. 

It looks like my days of feeling like life has knocked me over are almost over. Things are looking up finally!

I hope the week ahead continues to be on the up and up! 

For anyone reading this who's feeling down, under the weather, financially stretched, or emotionally weary.. I hope the coming days are filled with positives for you. Have a rainbow hug!

NOT A to Z - J is for Japanese Discovery and a Familiar Favourite

It was a tiring week for me. I had a class on Monday afternoon. Mum had a repeat blood test. On Tuesday I had a bunch of calls to take from the hospital, renal clinic, and integrated care representative who wanted to talk about getting a spot for mum in a dementia-day-care facility. I was also teaching an extra long session. Wednesday was another long class that ended late and BIKSS had to come get me from where I was. I wanted to go to a popular book store where they had lots of pre-K stuff for little ones so we went to a nearby mall where the shop could be found and I got a bunch of writing books and picture cards for mum. We also discovered a Japanese restaurant which had some interesting combinations - we ordered the salmon plate, a pork belly salad, and a chicken katsu in hot pot! 

Look at it sizzle! 

The following day we met for dinner again and headed back to our friendly dim sum / Chinese restaurant for another go at their semi-free-flow ala carte buffet dinner. I say semi cos you get up to 3 servings (one serving is meant to feed 2 pax) of each item on the menu. But trust me, one serving of each was more than enough for us.

This time we didn't pick one of everything on the menu like we attempted to the last time. 

But it was still way more than enough! 

Buddha jumps over the wall for me and a shark fin soup for BIKSS.

Prawns in a wine and herb broth. Black pepper stir-fried beef. Mushrooms and tofu.

Broccoli with scallops. Chinese cabbage in 3-egg-soup.

Deep fried prawns + wasabi mayo, deep fried soon hock (marbled goby) fish. It's supposedly found in nature around mangrove and bamboo swamps, preferring non-moving water with dense aqua flora. Literally translated the name means Luck (hock) of the Bamboo (soon). 

Dessert was osmanthus jelly. 

You basically make osmanthus flower tea, chuck out the petals and other bits, cook the liquid with anything that resembles jell-o - eg. agar, konnyaku, gelatin or whatever you have in where-u-live - and then you add wolfberries and dried osmanthus petals and other bits into the mixure. Next you pour it into a pan to set a third at a time so that the stuff you've just added doesn't all sink to the bottom. Pour slow-&-low to ensure you get the least number of air bubbles as possible. A good jelly in a Chinese restaurant is judged by its bubbles! 

And now, I'm going to hop into bed because my eyes are closing. Getting older is seriously NOT fun! 

Have a good weekend everyone :D

NOT A to Z - E is for Exercise

It's Palm Sunday weekend and I managed to get a seat for Mass. So I went and brought home extra palms for the boss and the colleague. 

And I decided that since it wasn't too far from home, I would walk back after church. A slower-than-usual walk means it took me 41 minutes to traverse the 2.8km (1 and 3/4 miles) back. At my usual speed that distance would have taken me under 30 mins. Oh well, I was carrying stuff, didn't have my exercise shoes or clothes and most importantly I didn't want to overdo it since I'm still semi-achey. 

Still, a slow walk is better than no walk. 

How have all of you been keeping up with your exercise regimes? 

NOT A to Z - D is for Dementia

C is for Chewy - so I shall refer you to the QQ post. 

And moving on in my unofficial A-Z, is D for Dementia. I'm taking a bunch of videos from the dementia course I finished to a friend's place tonight cos his mum's just beginning her dementia journey. Not true. It was mild before, and now it's progressed to a somewhat more moderate level. I think if I had watched or understood some of the things in the videos BEFORE dad gave me an up-close-and-personal experience with it I might have handled some things better. 

As it is I'm constantly learning - even now with mum's situation, and even tho I have had more 'experience' than he, but still have more questions than answers despite the years of caring for dad and mum, I figure I'd give him all the help I can. He did ring me earlier today and mentioned his mother's situation, which for him is the same as saying "HELP ME PLEASE" in  typical male (aka, without really asking) fashion.

On the way home I saw a grown woman berating her mother for something, in Chinese, so I only understood the anger, but not the details of it, and my heart about broke. The older woman must have been 80. And I can't help but wonder if it's a case of not understanding that dementia isn't something a person can control, and no, they're not "doing it on purpose". Sigh. 

My wish for the future of my country (one of them anyway) is that there will be more positive messaging around dementia, more people will be willing to talk about it, and more support and respite avenues are made available to families of those who are affected by the disease. 

I shall leave you with this video by Christine Bryden. 

NOT A to Z - B is for Bicycles

I've decided not to commit to doing A to Z this year, as the days ahead are looking a bit haphazard with medical appointments getting shuffled, my hormones in a mess, and a new online course I'm starting. 

But I WILL try and go thru' the alphabet as and when I can. 

If there's a convenient post that I can also use for whatever letter I'm at, that'll be it. 

Which brings me to A - for Anniversary. I don't know why I forgot that April was A to Z month, especially since I said to myself last year that it'll be easy to start the month's writing cos our anniversary is on the 1st of April so I can use that as every year's A post. So much for that. 

And now, B is for Bicycles. 

Outside a shopping mall near mum's old place - rows of bicycles lined up without locks nor chained to posts (which are on the other end of the stretch of pavement). I'm glad to live in a country where it's so safe, people just leave their bikes out there without worry that they'll get stolen. 

Z is for Zana Bayne

Who? Yeah. Me too. 

I went on Youtube and typed "BDSM FASHION SHOW" and this was one of the hits that came up. 

I watched it. I quite liked it. 

I realise there aren't many things one cannot find on the interweb. 

The description box under the video reads : 

Zana Bayne launched her first hand-crafted leather harness collection in 2010.  After graduating with a BFA in Conceptual Art from the San Francisco Art Institute she moved to Berlin before relocating to New York City in 2009 where she began developing her harness accessory business.

The namesake brand of the New York-based designer presents meticulously handcrafted leather accessories that play on the lines of the body. Subtle bondage undertones and defined silhouettes evoke a sense of refinement, accentuating the style of the individual wearer.

Here's the video : (Or CLICK THIS LINK)

And since some designers like wrapping up their runway shows with a wedding gown, I thought that the white-ish dress at the very end of this presentation was a fitting hat-tip to the customary fashion week tradition.

Enjoy!

This post was brought to you by the letter Z

(And with that I'm done with my A-Z challenge, but it runs officially till the end of April, so feel free to click the pic above to find out more or see who else is taking part!)

Y is for Yazoo

Because I like this song. 

I first heard The Flying Pickets' acapella version... and it wasn't till much later that I was informed this one was the original. I like them both - different flavours, I suppose. 

CLICK HERE to watch Yazoo's Only You on Youtube if the video above doesn't play for you.

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X is not for Xpectations But It'll Have to Do

Sorry Morningstar, no clever X word here. I could have done something about X-rated... or X-rays... but I had this on my mind and wanted to put it on the blog. 

So, Xpectations it is. 

The one thing I hadn't expected when I got involved with BIKSS was how patient he his. And how important that is in a relationship. As I was reading at Becoming His Slut some time ago I came across a post that hit me on the head with this patience thing. 

Many a time (in the beginning anyway) when we would argue or when I got upset (cos you know, he got upset VERY infrequently) I always expected that this would be the day he decided enough was enough and he didn't need to put up with my crap anymore. 

Perhaps it was because the other men I had dated up to this point were all volatile sorts. One punched a wall. One punched (and smashed) a mirror. One got up and walked out during a pizza-on-the-sofa-watching-telly dinner. One ghosted me. One sunk into depression. All of them taught me that anything that happened was my fault. I was the trigger. I said something. I did something. I made them angry. I hurt them. 

BIKSS taught me that fault is irrelevant. That no matter what happens, Love is still present. The commitment to stick it out and work it thru. To solve the issue, to deal with the problem, to move past the hurt and anger. 

There was always an "after". And any argument or fight or upset feelings were merely temporary ... a break in our regular programming to be dealt with in order to get to that "after". 

And to do that, one had to wait it out, talk it out, think things thru. And for me, this meant taking the time to work out what's what in my brain until I'm able to convey all my feelings and thoughts in words. While I do this, BIKSS waits. He sits with me. He holds me. His calm, stable aura fills up the space we're occupying and envelopes my frantic emotions. 

He is the only person I have been with who has given me the one thing my personality needs in order for a relationship to work. Patience. 

When I'm stressing with work / family / worries, patience. 

When I'm running late cos of some last minute thing or other, patience.

When I'm in a mood and/or grouchy and/or under the weather, patience. 

When I'm pissed at him but can't explain why exactly, patience. 

When I do or say something that hurts him / pisses him off, patience (to let me explain myself). 

When I ramble on about something that I know is totally irrelavent to him but I'm excited about and can't stop myself from going on and on about... patience. 

There are a million other examples where so many times, I realise, we could have ended up in huge fights or worse, but we didn't because of that one rare quality that he has in abundance. 

Patience. 

AND NO ONE (when I was growing up, at least) thought to hint at this being an expectation or a "what to look for" trait in a future partner. 

When we were in school it was always the same for a lot of us - What do you look for in a guy? 

- sense of humour, 

- loyal, 

- responsible, 

- wants kids

- gets along well with my family

- financially independent / stable

- hardworking 

- optimistic

- smart, well educated (not necessarily the same thing too!)

No one said "patience" and no adult around me who heard us thought to interrupt and suggest it either. 

Perhaps I could have saved myself a lot of time and effort on wasted relationships if it had just occurred to me sooner. 

Who knows what my life would have looked like if my expectations had been different. 

One thing's for sure, I didn't expect BIKSS. 

But I'm glad he's still here. 

Today's post was brought to you by the letter E pretending to be the letter X

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V is for Variety, Verdict, Verdant and W is for Waffles

I think we've reached that point again where I've amassed a collection of outfit pics so here they are - 

Outfit #1 

Because black is my go-to : Here's a typical outfit I reach for when I don't have too much time to think. That's a new Shein Vneck top in a size smaller than the one I got previously in white. 

The Verdict - A much better fit and a neckline that doesn't come down too low. 

Outfits #2 and #3 

I wore the olive top as a final test to see if I should part with it.

The Verdict - I don't like how the collar feels on my neck and the three-button back closure is just too cumbersome. I did like the contrast with the pink culottes, even tho' that's not typically my style.

The navy and sage is more me. Those shoes (given by a friend who couldn't fit into them) aren't, but I wanted something spacious and comfy, and they worked surprisingly well, colour-wise. 

The Verdict - not the greatest shoes to go to work in, but ok for a jaunt to the mall. 

Outfit #4

Another top I was testing. I love the colour but I think over time it has shrunk. I don't remember it being as short when I first bought it - both the bottom hem as well as the sleeves have gotten shorter. 

The Verdict - This one's gotta go. My tummy shows when I lift up my arm. This tee has found a new home with my mother. Who is a head shorter than me, at least. 

Items #5 and #6 

I also received two camisoles over the week, one has a padded built-in bra, and the other is a longline lace bralette - both were purchased with the intention of wearing them under sheer tops. I have a fair number of lace, chiffon and burnout tops that I would like to get more wear out of. Having a padded cami would cut out one step. Currently it's bra-cami-top. Too many layers, too many straps. Which is why I hardly wear them. I'll probably stick some nipple shields on if I'm wearing the lace one under a clingier / fitting top. 

The Verdict - Padded Cami is the best thing since sliced bread!

Item #7

I also received this red (more maroon than red) high neck lettuce-trim tee - this is a repeat purchase because I love the one I have in black so much I just HAD to get another. At under 10 bucks it's a pretty good buy! (The black one appears in another outfit pic in my Procrastinating post.)

Outfits #8 and #9

Testing out one of the new white tees I just received - this one has a rollover sleeve, round neck and is 100% polyester. It's so soft it feels like felt - I suspect it's brushed polyester. I wore it with my mom jeans and slightly-too-chunky white sneakers but it wasn't too bad once I tucked the laces under the tongue - thank goodness for Youtube fashion-hack videos! 

The Verdict - The shirt - A +++. The jeans - um, I don't think I can wear anything tucked into these jeans. Too much bunching under the waistband. The shoes - will work if I'm wearing pants. Probably won't go with skirts / dresses tho.

For dinner with BIKSS that night I wore the same tee (and belt) but changed out the jeans to my Levi's Bold Curve Straight Leg jeans.  I also chucked out the sneakers for my snakeskin boots. 

The Verdict - MUCH better! Wouldn't you say? (BIKSS and I both agree that the mom jeans makes me look frumpy. Good for travelling and all round comfort, but don't expect to look fashion-forward in it.)

Let me know what you think!

We went to Shake Shack for dinner. They now have 5 outlets in my country and I had yet to try their burgers. BIKSS had a burger from there once, a takeaway order, so by the time he ate it it had become a cold soggy mess. 

We drove past it after our do-over dinner a couple of nights earlier, and I mentioned to BIKSS that we should go there for dinner one day. So we did. 

The place was spacious, the lights were bright. We found a cosy table, but as we sat down there was a very noticeable stinky-people smell. BO is a TERRIBLE thing. We actually gave it 10 seconds, thinking it might have been someone's just-arrived onion relish on a burger... but nope. It was a stinky person. So we got up and moved. 

Restaurants here are still trying to maintain some sort of safe-distancing so every other table was cordoned off. Leaving us with not many options except to go sit by the verdant Monstera Deliciosa that took centre stage, walled in by bar counters and high stools, providing extra seating.

It was quite pleasant in the end. We had the whole length of the bar table to ourselves. 

I had the only all-veggie option on the menu, featuring a deep fried breaded cheese and portabello mushroom patty, while BIKSS had a cheeseburger with bacon. That plus cheesy fries and a bottle of plain water put us back $30. 

What? I mean, they did taste good. But that's daylight robbery. 

The Verdict - I don't think I'll be making this a regular dining spot. 

After dinner we had space in our tummies so we took a drive across town (I didn't know when I suggested it that the place I had in mind was that far away - altho BIKSS didn't mind the drive, he says) to try out a waffle place which had pretty good reviews. Actually, it's a gelato place that serves waffles and brownies.  

I decided that we should just have one scoop of ice cream instead of our usual two, you know, 'cos elevated glucose, hormonal weight gain and all that... sigh. 

The Bailey's ice cream was good. The waffle was pretty good. It had a balanced flavour (not too much or too little egginess), enough bounce, and enough crunch. The only problem was that it didn't last. By the time we were about halfway thru it was definitely more soggy than crispy. 

The location wasn't great - finding a place to park was a real bitch. And the cafe itself was pretty noisy and small. PLUS - I could smell the toilet from where we sat - and we were seated in the front half of the cafe. 

The Verdict - I don't think I'll come back here. 

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O to U - Procrastination Over - Quite Unsatisfactory Sex Toy Review

I totally owe today's title to Mrs Fever. I might have tweaked it a little. 

The triple whammy Paloqueth sextoy that had been sitting in my cupboard since before my father passed has finally been charged, played with and a conclusion drawn. 

That conclusion is that I thought it would be better than it was. I probably won't reach for it, the biggest problem I have with it being that the buttons aren't responsive. To be fair, it could be because it had been kept for a while. But that really shouldn't affect the sensitivity of the little nubs that have never been put to use (by me, anyway) right? 

So here it is. Paloqueth sent me a bunch of toys and I've reviewed most of them already. But I didn't have the time or space (or privacy) to play with this last one before the mother came to live with me a year ago. It's a decently made box with the prerequisite sponge cut-out insert that holds the vibrator. I like that the boxes are very sturdy. And there is a signature purple sleeve / bag to store the toy in. 

The manual is in English (as with their other toys), thankfully, and has all the necessary information and instructions regarding charging, which buttons to push and what each one is supposed to control.

I can't say I love the colour. It's a bit of a sick light blue / not-quite-turqouse thing, and has a rabbit clitoral stimulator, a vibrating 'dildo' portion, and something that reminded me (and not in a good way) of a reptile/dino tail that's meant to go in your bum. 

The usual CE Certification stamp and voltage requirements can be clearly seen just under the magnetic points for the charger. 

I don't know if you'll be able to see what I mean by "reptile tail" in the video at the end of this post... but well, into my bum it went. 

The first thing I hated was that the buttons wouldn't work properly. I pressed once for 3 seconds to turn it on. Great. The appropriate prong started to vibrate. But pressing it again was supposed to get it to change rhythm. Nothing happened. So then I realised after pressing it repeatedly half to death that I needed to press slightly BELOW where the protruding nub was in order for it to respond. What? Mind you by this time I had turned both vibrating motors on and off about 4 times before I figured it out. And even then it wasn't a 100% situation. Sometimes pressing the nub worked better, sometimes pressing under it. Whatever.

Fine. Let's just go with it. 

The second thing is that the bum-pokey-pokey bit wasn't as flexible as it ought to have been, and therefore every time I moved the puss-pokey-pokey bit in and out a little bit (for some fun, you know?) the bum-poke popped out. 

Erm. So far it wasn't going too great. 

Well, let's try again. Getting it back in was easy enough, but because it's a fixed angle, in order for the bum-poke to stay in, the puss-poke had to ram into the inside-front of my belly (ok it's not my belly, but you know what I mean), causing a little bit of discomfort. It wasn't just NOT pleasurable, it was downright NOT NICE. 

Don't forget that bunny. Being NOT a flexible arm, that one too didn't sit where I needed it to sit. It kind of rested way too low, halfway from clit to puss, where, well, there was no pleasure button there. 

Which made it kinda frustrating in the end! LOL. Like, let's make EVERYTHING vibrate, but not quite hitting any of the right spots. 

SO NO. I shall not play with this again. I think the anatomy of the person using such a toy has to match up with all the angles EXACTLY in order for this to be a win. Too many variable factors here in my opinion. 

Here's the video... Enjoy :)

Today's post was brought to you by the letters O P Q R S T and U, and dedicated to Mrs Fever.

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N is for NON see thru

 Finally I managed to get my hands on some white tees that AREN'T see thru. 

These are the 3 tees, a v-neck (left), a crew-neck (middle), and a round neck one with foldover sleeves (right).

I tried both a nude bra and a grey bra under them... so far, so good. I have to look really closely to see which is the grey and which is the nude. But as long as my bras are not screaming at the world, I'm happy.

Of course black is more my jam, so I picked up a black v neck too. 

And that marks the end of my quest (which started a month and a half ago) for the non translucent white tee. It has been a long journey. But I am now satisfied!

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M is for Mask

Not face mask. Not facial sheet mask. BUTT MASK. 

I have had some darkening patches over my sit spot. Friction. Dry skin. Whatever. It's there. More on one side than the other. The boss / doc said to moisturise. And exfoliate. But you know, Hashtag Lazy. I was supposed to do the daily scrub and vaseline thing... but clearly that hasn't been happening. 

And besides, it's so inconvenient to moisturise - when I remember I'm usually in bed. Or when I'm about to go to work or leave the house cos that's the time I stand at my dresser then see the lotion then think, OH BUT I'M ALREADY DRESSED and reaching up under a skirt or pulling down my pants to slap some lotion on my butt isn't a thing I find appealing. Cos then you have a damp butt. And who likes damp butts. 

I wish there was a mask I could slap on and then lie down for 15 minutes while it does its work. 

Turns out there is. And it says "slap it" too. How cute. (There's also Own It, Bite It, Squeeze It, and Shake It! LOL)

Here's a Bawdy review at Glamour if you're interested. Pic from Bawdy's social media - 

There are also other brands available at Sephora, this one being a boob and butt duo set.

I think another popular one is called Buttitude.

Freeman Beauty has Bust, Belly AND Butt masks.

Buy the set on Amazon or just the butt mask which comes as a 6-pack.

They also sell it on iHerb which probably makes more sense for me as I typically order stuff from there every other month or so. I shall try it after I'm done using up my facial sheet masks. 

Yes. I've decided that since I hardly use my facial masks I shall put them to good booty use on my tush. According to this website, anything you can use on your face can be used on your bottom. Altho' you'd probably want something that's shaped for the booty, and maybe a little more "robust" ingredient-wise, there is no harm in slapping a face mask on your butt. 

"Any mask you can use on your face, you can also use on your butt," Dr. Jaliman tells Health. If your favorite sheet mask is chock-full of caffeine, for example, it can help minimize the look of dimpled skin on your buns, while exfoliating masks can make your rump look firmer. Also good: other skin-saving ingredients in the mask will penetrate better when paired with an exfoliant. 

So that's what I did today. Left it folded in two, cut it in half, and stuck one on each bottom-of-cheek where the rough spots have formed. And then I fell asleep. 

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L is for Loud and Louder

The restaurant that BIKSS took me to for our do over that is. 

He arranged to have dinner with me on Tuesday. And then said "Ok, I've made reservations."

That's more like it.

What kind of place is it? I was planning on wearing a sheer top with a casual spaghetti dress over top. 

He sent me the Youtube link for a Caribbean playlist. LOL. 

Caribbean it is! 

I saw the menu and a picture of the restaurant, "It's not much of a dress place is it? Maybe jeans then..." 

"I'm sure you could still rock a dress" he said. So I did.

He got me at a quarter past 7, and off we went. 

(I might have gotten a bit carried away with the hearts over there on the right hand side... it was just so fun!)

We stepped in and I knew I was done for. The acoustics of the place weren't awesome. There was a quieter outdoor back area, but the section was closed that night. The tables were pretty broad so I think people weren't sitting as close to each other as they would normally. I myself found it quite tedious to have to lean forward and raise my voice in order to be heard. I felt like I was talking to my mother. Every other sentence was met with a "huh?" from BIKSS cos he couldn't hear me. Maybe HE's losing his hearing. 

Anyway, eventually we managed to order our dinner. 

Spicy Shrimp Tapas - 

I love the floor! But I digress. That platter of 4 admittedly very delicious very fresh and springy and very juicy prawns cost $20. That's 5 bucks a shrimp. Yes yes, I know prawn and shrimp aren't exactly the same, but I'm going to use them interchangeably seeing as how I don't know which of the two I'm eating - it's not like I can count their legs or see if the thorax segment is over or under the head segment.

Dhal Mushroom Tapas - 

Also very delicious. Minced mushrooms in a curry paste with mashed dhal and then deep fried, sitting on a dollop of mayo. Very very warm and comforting in the belly. 

(By this time I was closing my eyes every now and again when a sudden voice would boom from across the room or when the bartender did his fancy mixing dance with his cocktail shaker.) 

But now, more food. Let's eat. 

Our main was a snapper over roasted veggies with a house salsa -

Not a bad portion. The plate was huge. The meal delicious. The noise level - deafening. 

By the time we were done eating I was sitting with elbows on the table, chin resting in my hands. Like this. Only I had my middle fingers pressing into my ears to block out the noise. Somehow it had gotten louder and louder. Tables got more crowded as friends arrived to join those who had started dining earlier. Empty tables filled up as couples and groups came in. Existing groups got louder as more rum was had. 

"Are you covering your ears?" He was a little bit amused, but not unsympathetic. He realised I couldn't take the noise level and asked if I was ready to leave. Oh, YES PLEASE. How did it get louder and louder I don't know... But I just couldn't hang in there anymore.

"Wanna take a walk down the stretch and see if there's any place with a dessert you fancy?"

"No, I think I wanna get into the car please..." 

We did. Peace and quiet. Ah. This was much better. And I really wasn't in the mood for another noisy restaurant, so I said, "Can you get us to a McDonald's Drive Thru? I have a plan," I announced. 

So he did. And we picked up a chocolate pie and a hot fudge sundae, then parked the car and ate the simplest of desserts together, while looking (and giggling) at the words on some of the NUTS cards (which I had brought along with me to show him cos I thought they were hilarious...)

By the last spoonful he had managed to feed me without mirroring my open-mouthed "ah" that everyone ends up doing when they're feeding someone else. Why is that huh? LOL

Someone gave me this pack a while back and I haven't had the opportunity to play it, cos it's more than 2 players I think. But the cards are pretty funny, and I've told BIKSS that I plan to pull out all the ones that have "actions" on them that can be acted upon and he can draw random cards while I'm giving him a blowjob and I'll do what it says on the card. Beware tho, there is a "smacking your nuts" card in there too!

Do you see a Nut Card you like?

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K is for Kicks

As in shoes. As in lace-ups. As in I want a pair of not-chunky-soled sneakers that I can wear with everything. It's a good thing the fashion gods are smiling fondly on this trend right now, cos my bad tendons could do with some wider-based shoes. 

Since I wear both longer and shorter skirts / dresses for work, I'm glad the white sneaker style is so versatile!

I can still wear my kitten heels and slides and wedges, but they're not the most stable on the ground, you know what I mean? I've recently been curating my shoe cupboard and have given away two of the less sturdy pairs, as I don't want to take unnecessary risks - I don't think I can afford a trip-n-fall or twisted ankle - twisted ANYTHING for that matter - not after that last cant-stand-cant-walk episode.

So while I still have some 'pretty' shoes for dinner dates, I've also decided that I shall just make sure whatever new shoes I do pick up from now on will fit one or more of these 3 criteria - flats or slip ons with wide base/sole, low block heels (no stilettos), wider toebox (no witchy pointy shoes).

[We interrupt this post to show you a pair of Hush Puppies slingbacks - FYI I LOVE SLINGBACKS - that we just bought because - pretty, low, block heel, square toe. I mean, perfect! Stylish, but sensible. That's my new shoe motto!]

(And now, back to our post...)

To this end, I ordered a pair of slip on mesh loafers and I'm waiting excitedly for them to arrive. I do have a pair of white chunky sneakers but they look rather too horrid to wear with non-workout clothes. The sole is simply too thick. Admittedly this pair isn't a lace-up but it'll serve the same purpose. And it has a holey upper, so I'm hoping it'll afford me some ventilation in our 36°C weather.

Last night after our do over dinner (that's tomorrow's post), we went into a Decathlon store to wander for a bit. I saw a pair of white-ish (not the starkest white, but I'm not terribly fussed about that) walking shoes. I tried them on to see how it would look with the midi-dress I had on. At first BIKSS wasn't crazy keen on the look, but he understands why I would want to wear it that way. He did say it looks how it's supposed to, 'trend'-wise. 

Now I'm waiting for the Shein pair to arrive to try those on first. If it works, it works (for $16 it's a steal),  but if it sucks then at least I know where I can get myself a decent pair ($25). 

Yes - that's my shoe size. It's hard not to look like Ronald McDonald in sneakers. LOL. 

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