How am I Spam?

 

It has only NOW occurred to me that some of my messages / comments (and yours) have landed in the spam folder. It's really weird that Blogger would flag my own replies as spam. 

If you have commented in the past but it hasn't showed up on my posts, I do apologise.  What a mess. 

I'm Too Old To Figure It Out

Or just not techy enough maybe? 

I looked at Wordpress.com. I even signed up. And migrated my Blogger blog (up to 28th Dec 2022) over - couldn't make it current cos when I've tried exporting my blog in the last couple of weeks blogger jams up at 14Mb. It. Is. Really. Annoying. 

BUT more importantly - I mean, having 30 lost posts is nothing to me when I've been here for 11 years right? - more importantly... I just don't know how to use the Wordpress menu. It's so fecking complicated. Site editor? Template editor? Clicking on blocks? Took me 4 minutes to figure out how to add a block so I could put in the archives. Took me another 5 to find the settings so that it would be grouped by month. ARGH.

I've watched the tutorials and it's still taking me way too long to even figure out how to set it so that I only get the most recent instead of last 3 posts on my front page. It really is quite annoying. 

U know, maybe I just stay here until I'm done with blogging for good.

Le sigh. 

And maybe I make it a private blog - so if you want access let me know and I'll send you an invite by email. I'm not sure if that will make it better - more accessible - cos some people have already reached out saying they can't get past the warning page. I don't know.. maybe you have to sign in or something? 

The Sky Is Falling... and It's Been 11 Years

The last week has been about more money. Dealing with time deposits, payment of yet more bills and other matters... and to add that cherry on the top of my financial woes sundae, the ceiling began to fall away. 

I called the contractor and he came in today to fix it. Original quote was for 2 areas - $350 he said. In the end he identified a total of 3 more small areas and one more large one. I didn't get tons of money from the ATM I said, so you're going to have to let me know what the final figure is so that I can go down to the teller and pick up more cash. I only withdrew $400 I informed him. 

Ah, well, then let's just say it's $400 he says. I felt super bad. So I gave him whatever was in my wallet (amounting to $430) and he declined at first, saying that it wasn't necessary, but I really felt that he wasn't after the "extra" money when he warned me that there were other areas that needed seeing to. One of the patches came away in a huge chunk, which, had it been left to fall on its own could have caused someone some serious head damage! It was in the bathroom too, so you know, all sorts of fall-on-the-floor-unconscious-in-the-bath shit could have happened. 

(Top - bathroom / Bottom - kitchen above the laundry area)

He also patched up a part of the room window beam that was coming away... this one, to repair, would require some major reno which I'm NOT prepared to do at this point. The previous housing-development-approved inspector had said it was fixable but would be a rather large undertaking - so he advised me to leave it be, and if I ever intend to do any major work on the flat then that would be the time to handle this issue as well. The guy who came today agreed with that assessment. "I'll just patch it up a bit for you in the meantime so there won't be unsightly cracks and critters won't be so likely to crawl in there and make their homes in your wall." Seems like a good plan to me. 

In other news, we had some 'samsui' steamed chicken last week, a style of cuisine made popular by the Chinese women who landed here in the early 1900s and worked as independent labourers / caregivers etc, hailing from the Sanshui district of what is now Guangdong province in Southern China. 

Steamed chicken arranged in a circle, eaten with cucumber & lettuce alongside a ginger dipping sauce.

We also had sweet-potato leaves (stir-fried in a spicy chilli paste sauce), a serving of 'shark fin' melon soup - the melon comes away in shredded bits that looks like shark fin! - and braised deep fried tofu. Which turned out to be the most delicious thing on the table! (And I don't even like tofu!)

This week BIKSS had to entertain the powers that be from his company's head office so we hadn't planned for dinner this Friday. But plans changed, the bosses decided to head back to their hotel early, and so he swung by to get me at 6! 

We searched online for a nearby sourdough pizza place, and discovered one in a tiny housing estate not far from me. 

The food was surprisingly good. No complaints from either of us... I think we might have found our new pizza place. 

Spinach and cranberry salad with almonds and topped with a lemon vinaigrette... 

Their pizzas aren't named, but rather, numbered. This is pizza 11 with added shrimp. LOL. Roasted tomatoes, parma ham, rocket, and burrata on a sourdough crust. Not bad at all. 

And that was how we celebrated our 11th year of sometimes-doing-this-thing-we-do. There *was* a little bit of nipple tweaking and neck holding last night... ahem ahem... so all in all not a bad way to cross over into year 12. (And that means it's also been 11 years that I've been on this blog!)

Happy Anniversary Daddy BIKSS 💖

And thank you to all my blogfriends who've been a supporter of us and this blog!

Today's chip pic - 

Goodbye Morningstar

Shine brightly in the heavens that all of us who knew you may remember your spark and energy 

We will remember you adventures and your stories and your weekly Sunday Sentiments. 

We will remember how you stood up for your beliefs, how your home projects with the Lil one delighted not only her but us as well. 

We will remember you. And your presence will surely be felt from the heavens.

If I should go tomorrow

It would never be goodbye,

For I have left my heart with you,

So don’t you ever cry.

The love that’s deep within me,

Shall reach you from the stars,

You’ll feel it from the heavens,

And it will heal the scars. 

~ author unknown

Where do they get off...

thinking that they have a right to tell me I should be writing only BDSM-related stuff? 

On my last post an anon user left a comment saying they think I've lost the plot and is this a BDSM blog or a cooking blog? 

1) does it look like I'm cooking? 

2) did I say it was a BDSM-only blog? 

3) nobody held a gun to your head and made you read here. 

[EDIT - from this point forward any comment I DO NOT LIKE will be deleted and not published. The only reason I left the comment in question on my blog was so I could address it via a reply as well as in this post. And now that I have made my declaration, I shall no longer publish idiotic comments.]

Moving on... 

Having said that... I'm curious about what bits of my blog you enjoy. 

Leave a comment letting me know what you like, what you're not particularly thrilled about, and what you'd like to see more or less of. 

It could be content related (more food, less plants), it could be style (love pics, not so many words please) it could be snoopy (if my life sux you'll maybe feel better about your life), it could be knowledge expansion (wanna know about snails but too lazy to look it up), or just my personality (more wit and humour and snark please, less touchy feely stuff... ugh). 

Today's chip pic ~

To Comment or Not to Comment

Sooooo it's not the first post to talk about reasons for blogging and fellow-blogger interaction and comment etiquette - if there is such a thing. 

But Bonnie's post inspired me to leave a comment there and midway thru' I realised that even if someone read my post and didn't have anything post-related to write, a "Hello, I was here" would still be a lovely thing to see. 

I understand, as I am also guilty of this, that sometimes you might read and not write anything because you may not have anything relevant / of import to say regarding the topic of the day. 

I mean, I write about Plants. Food. My Mother. Surely there are readers who do not know about plants, food, or mothers.😏. And so they read and don't leave a comment that day (I assume). Or, well, you know, ever. And I cannot expect everyone to know what a plant is, or what purpose food serves or how mothers came to be. So surely there are those who will just be passing through. 

But if you're ever here and want to leave a comment but don't know what to say, just say "Popping in to say Hi," and that will suffice. I don't need to enter into a meaningful discussion in the comment section. I just like having people say Hello. 

My question to other bloggers is - Do you feel the same way? If your post that day asks for captions (KD, I'm looking at you) or if you've written something about an illness (and I have had no experience with it either first, second or any hand), or perhaps you've drawn something, shared a pic, or written a poem or otherwise produced something which might fall into the "creative" category, and I don't connect with it, would you prefer I leave a "Hello, stopping by to say I was here today" comment? Or would you rather a reader didn't mar your comment wall with irrelevant (to the post) text?

(Don't be surprised if you see just a Hi and/or a "Like", or maybe a thumbs up 👍 on your posts.)

Leave a comment letting me know. Or not. You could just leave a smiley face emoji. I don't really care one way or the other. But it would be nice, since you came round, to just say hi. Like how you wave or smile when you pass a friend on the street, you know? I mean, YOU DID CLICK ON MY BLOG. ON PURPOSE. TO COME SEE WHAT I WROTE. 

Ahem. Was that too loud?

Ok, leave a comment. 

My chip pic today ~ 

(I've been watching Ocean's Eleven)

Jiggly Conversation

I read Mrs F's post on boob-shrinkage recently, and it popped into my head during our most recent jiggety-jig session. So I asked BIKSS if he thought my boobs were smaller. 

Yes, he nodded. 

I thought so too, I said in dismay. 

Well, at least it won't be saggy and droopy when I'm older, I replied. 

He laughed and said, well, he'll be saggy and jiggly all over when he gets older. He demonstrated by placing his hands on his belly and jiggling it up and down. LOL.

Then with a spark of joy said "You know the one place on me that WON'T be saggy and jiggly?" 

Me - Your balls! 

Him - Yup, me balls! 

*Giggles*

(For the record, Roger's dongles are situated high up! They're wrapped tight and sit close to the body.)

My chip pic today ~

Lotus root chips are popular during CNY too, but I didn't buy any this year cos it's not a fave of mine. 

Tuesday Tickle

We were talking about the blog and I said something about not minding that people who don't live here knowing that I live where-I-live. It's the people who are local knowing and figuring it's me that freaks me out. 

I also mentioned I recently looked at the stats and while most of my hits are from the US, I got 50 views locally.  

"So aside from the two of us, the rest of those hits are from people in ____ reading my sex-blog!"  I said in faux (but not really) horror, cos we live in a really small everyone-is-connected-to-everyone place. 

BIKSS replied "You don't have a sex-blog. It's all plants and food these days!"

He's got a point!

My mood pic today ~ 

Almost Hump Day - Plants, Blogs, Follow

Yes, I *am* trying to post more frequently. 

1. Today my students' mum sent them over with pots in hand. There were two really tiny ones with coleus cuttings (what's the plural of coleus? Coleuses? Coleii?) and another with a just-rooted tradescantia nanouk (Pref, here's another tradescantia for you!).

(Btw, a quick foreign language lesson - in some Malay based languages like those used in Brunei, Indonesia and Malaysia, 'nonok' is a slang word for pussy. So I found the name of this plant rather amusing. I'm sure BIKSS did too.)

 👈 Nanouk 

I transferred it to a new pot I got just this afternoon (yes, I knew a plant would be coming today and  was out of pots) and then stuck a few hoya carnosa cuttings (which I got from my colleague yesterday) in to send back to her.

 👈 Hoya Carnosa

I didn't take a pic of the coleus..es..esii? cos they looked a little ill having been exposed to a little too much sun today. I'll see how they fare in a few days. Those things are pretty hardy, I'm told.

2. I've decided that I really like it when I leave a comment on someone's blog and they bother to reply. It makes me want to check that blog for a reply a day or 2 later, and then if there's another post up by then, I'll leave another comment... and then I'll come back and check a day or 2 later... rinse and repeat. 

When people don't reply I find myself not bothering to head back there cos there probably won't be a reply for me anyway... so ... 

So if I don't head to your blog for an extended period of time or if you think that I'm not there cos I don't comment, it's safe to say that I may still read, I just don't write cos what would be the point? 

Except of course if I don't leave comments ANYWHERE or if I'm not even posting on my own blog - then it's likely I'm just super busy. 

3. You know who replies but I don't think gets a lot of visitors? Cutiebootie. Check her out. She's on vacay at the moment so the replies and posts might be sporadic. But I love that she always replies my comment! (Of course some of you other suspects always do too, and I love you for it. I'm just sayin', she doesn't get a lot of visitors, so I thought I would do a shoutout.)

My mood pic today ~ 

I'm off for a walk with BIKSS. Ciao for now!

LoL Day Number 16

I will be coming up to my 10th year of blogging soon and in all that time the one thing that has kept me coming back each time I've taken a break is the kindness of the people in Blogland. 

The people who understand me, not just the spanko bits or the DDlg or D/s bits, but me - the regular person with regular problems who's navigating life as best she can, with a side of kink, preferably! 

For all of you I am grateful. 

For those of you who comment and write to me and share your private lives with me, I am honoured. 

For those of you who read but don't comment, I thank you for stopping by and I hope what I write makes you feel not-so-alone, comforted, encouraged, commiserated with, or even fill you with a touch of Schadenfreude if that's what you need at that moment! 

I write because of all of you, and most of all I couldn't do it without BIKSS' encouragement and support. 

I daresay he's my number one fan. 

While we haven't had a lot of playtime in recent months / years, we're glad for the lessons of the early years - communication, patience, respect, etc etc. You know the list right? 

These are things that have kept us able to stay sane during this strange time of upheavals in my life. 

So here I am. Because of all of you. 

Thank you for loving us! Happy Lol Day everyone!

(Thanks to Hermione for hosting!)

Getting to Know Me

I shared this on social media and thought it would be fun to post it here too. 

I know some people did a meme (does this count as a meme?) recently around blogland, but if you feel like doing another... feel free to hop on for the ride. 

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1. Who was the last TV personality you thought was HOT? 

Mae Martin on Feel Good.  Her body-type is exactly what I look for when I'm in girl-mode. (Also, I thought it was a good series - I can definitely identify with having manic mental episodes. I just binge watched both seasons this weekend.)

2. How do you feel right now?

I'm gonna go the physical route - I feel soft and flabby. Need. Exercise. Soon. 

AND ALSO - my upper body muscles are aching from balancing myself over Roger during yesterday's festivities... goes to show how deconditioned I am right now.

3. What have you discovered about yourself in the last year?

I've discovered I'm not a plant killer after all. I'm really happy about that. 

4. What's your favourite soda? 

I love Mountain Dew. If you had to have only one soda (yes yes I know, HFCS blah blah) for the rest of your life, what would it be? 

5. What's a local food that you really enjoy?

Of all the kinds of breads I've tried, I really like the soft buns with stuff in them that comes from our local bakeries best. I wonder if they have these types of buns in the Western world.

They come in both sweet and savoury options, and the most common are BBQ pork, hot dog sausage, tuna mayo, egg mayo, chicken pie filling, curry potato/chicken, while sweet ones tend to be red bean paste, coffee or vanilla or custard cream, or sometimes they're topped with peaches or other fruit like a tart, except instead of a tart crust it's a soft fluffy bun. Another very popular one is pizza bread. Basically it's any combo of sausage, capsicum, pineapple, cheese and tomato sauce on top of bread instead of pizza dough, and often found with mayo drizzled over the top!

Oh, wait. I just realised. They're really all just tarts, pies, danishes, pizzas and croissants that have all been swapped out for buns. Soft, fluffy, slightly sugar-glazed, shiny buns. Yum.

6. The one snack you will die without is - 

I really, REALLY love potato chips. Like really. But you already know this! 

My mood pic today ~ 

Period Pees and Poos

...And this can be my P post. (See yesterday's entry...) LOL. 

I've often wondered if I'm the only one who saw a change in my poop habits pre-period. I've mentioned this to other GPs before, when I was much younger. And each time I've been told there's no correlation. 

Well, here's the correlation, eejits (the doctors, I mean, not you readers). Tsk. I knew it was linked SOMEhow.

How do your toilet habits change from week to week in your cycle?

...Are you ready for more P words? 

You can blame prostaglandins and progesterone. One helps you push things out and the other wants to hold on to all those nutrients in case you have to feed a mini human in your tummy.

The article recommends some remedies... so if you have a problem with pre-period no-show-poo or if you have a bad case of diarrhoea (OMG have you not seen PREFECTDT's post featuring the funniest English-learning video on earth?) click the link and have a read. It's easy to understand and may make a lot of sense like it did for me.

My mood pic today ~

So I Got Inspired - Etymology

Mrs Fever has a new project that's running from now till end June. It's called - 

(From her blog - 

What It Is: a writing project, based on anything that inspires you — people, places, things, experiences, and/or creations (such as writings, photos, artwork, etc.) offered up by others.)

More deets can be found on her post so use the link up top to go have a look if you want to join in. 

I didn't think I would participate, but since I got inspired by something someone emailed me the other day (👈 that's the inspiration) I thought I would just jump in with this post. 

Have you ever wondered where phrases came from? I have. Often. All the time, in fact. 

I had left a comment on a blog and got a reply to my comment via email. But at the end of it the sender said that I should mind my own p's and q's. Which I thought was strange cos I don't think I was being rude - I honestly didn't mean to be, in any case. But whatevs, right? That got me wondering if I misunderstood the phrase. So I looked it up. And it seems, while everyone is in agreement that it means (among other things... and we'll get to that at the bottom of this post!)

 "mind your manners", "mind your language", "be on your best behaviour", "watch what you're doing",

(thank you wikipedia), no one is quite sure where the phrase came from. Here are a few of the suggestions which I have copied from the wiki entry. Let me know which one you think is the most likely - or which one you just like the most.

 

1. A letter to the editors of Notes and Queries dated 1851 put forward that it had to do with the lowercase letters p and q in the context of the school-room or typesetting in the printing-office.

2. It originally meant learning the alphabet. The first appearance of this phrase comes from a poem by Charles Churchill, published in 1763: ‘On all occasions next the chair / He stands for service of the Mayor, / And to instruct him how to use / His As and Bs, and Ps and Qs.’ 

3. When pupils were taught to write lowercase alphabet, the positioning of the vertical line before or after the circle represented different letters: d & b, p & q. Pupils also had to mind the placement of the letters when writing the alphabet eg. p comes before q. 

Some less likely, but more fun explanations, imo, are - 

4. "Ps and Qs" is short for "pleases" and "thank-yous", the latter of which contains a sound similar to the pronunciation of the name of the letter "Q".

5. Bartenders would keep a watch on the alcohol consumption of the patrons; keeping an eye on the pints and quarts that were consumed. As a reminder to the patrons, the bartender would recommend they "mind their Ps and Qs". This may also have been a reminder to bartenders not to confuse the two units, written as "p" and "q" on the tally slate.

These are even more "fanciful", to quote wiki - 

6. They come from French instructions to mind one's pieds (feet) and queues (wigs) while dancing. However, there is no French translation for this expression.

7. Another origin could be from sailors in the 18th century who were reminded to pay attention to their peas (pea coat) and queues (pony tail).

Michael Quinion, British etylmologist, writer, and mega contributor to the Oxford dictionaries, cites a 17th Century English expression that points to pee and kew meaning "of the highest quality". He says -

"The Oxford English Dictionary has a citation from Rowlands’ Knave of Harts of 1612: “Bring in a quart of Maligo, right true: And looke, you Rogue, that it be Pee and Kew.” 

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Aside from the wiki entry, I've found some other blogs / sites that contain very similar information. Here are some of them - 

Window Through Time

World Wide Words

Idiom Origins

Interestingly, in the second and third links it says (and I'm paraphrasing) that while in the UK (and since we were a British colony, this is the version I learned in school) it means to mind one's manners, or please be on your best behaviour, in the US it could also be used to mean "be alert, be on one's toes, or at the top of one's form".

What this means is that depending on who's saying / writing it and who's hearing / reading it, it could mean some very different things: 

- don't be rude

- mind what you say

- do be careful

- take care now

- all the best 

- you'd best behave

...which, obviously, could lead to some confusion. 

And so, what had initially gotten me slightly upset (because I thought she felt that I was being rude and had used the phrase in admonishment... I thought we were friends?! and I didn't think she'd be that mean...) might have just been her way of saying "You stay safe too!" 

[That's the version I'm choosing to believe anyway.]

What about you? Which meaning do you have in mind when you hear the phrase Mind your p's and q's? 

Let me know in a comment!

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P/S - I've started a Coursera course on the basics of dermatology. I figured with all this free time now that piano lessons are on hold, I may as well do something constructive. It'll give me something to focus on instead of this stoopid assdemic. The presenter isn't the easiest to understand... and the transcript leaves much to be desired. But I'm sure I'll still come out of it knowing more than I did going in. 

My mood pic today ~ 

 

A is for Answers and Anniversary

This year I decided to jump on the A to Z Blogging Challenge bandwagon cos Mrs Fever twisted my arm. Ok, no she didn't... but she's such an inspiration to me that I thought, why not. I have  been writing quite regularly recently... so here it is. 

And since Answers begins with A, I took that as a sign to hop on since I was planning to publish my March answers today anyway! 

First, I asked some of the other bloggers this question and those whose answers have been posted are linked below or reproduced from the comments. 

My own answers (and BIKSS') have been added to the mix.

Fondles' Question - Name three implements that are employed regularly (besides the hand) on your behind (or your spankee's behind), and rank them in order of preference.

MY ANSWER to that would be :

1) Cane (tappety taps with a chance of whooshes)

2) Belt - the very old very worn very first belt BIKSS used, which is now no longer in existence. His new belt needs some wearing in, but until that happens, it's going to be a painful road. And we haven't got a lot of time for noise-making implements... so it'll be some time yet before we get there, I suspect.

3) Small black flogger that we bought on some cheap China website. Turns out to be surprisingly comfortable. I know that's not how you traditionally describe implements, but that's what it is. Enough cushy-ness, a good range of bite (depending on the force behind it) and a lovely swishy feel as it leaves your skin. 

BIKSS likes 1) Belt, 2) Cane, 3) Christmas Paddle

We have two canes, I like them both / Belt not shown cos it's G O N E :(

• Bonnie's answer can be found in THIS POST 
• Ronnie's is HERE
• Morningstar answers IN THIS POST
• And PK's response can be found HERE
• One final entry in the form of Prefectdt's answer can be found HERE
• Roz : Spankings here are infrequent nowdays so it usually is the hand or possibly leather paddle. We don't have any other implements now.
• KD : We have several implements but only one that is used regularly: a homemade lucite paddle with a round head. So while I'd say a paddle-sized wooden spoon and a synthetic switch/cane thing see some action, they are hardly used regularly.

[EDIT - A late addition - You can click HERE to read Baker's answer]

BONNIE - What, besides nothing, do you prefer to wear to a spanking? What, besides nothing, does BIKSS like you to wear when that time arrives?

I have quite enjoyed dressing up for a spanking, with a cut out panty (here's one I DID get spanked in) or a open-back chemise (see pic 👇). 

BIKSS prefers me in the white corset/cincher, while still being nekkid below (his word not mine). 

MORNINGSTAR - Ok my question of you.......do spankings always lead to sex for you and BIKSS? IF you have an orgasm -- then BIKSS decides to spank - do you find it hurts more?? do you see a correlation between orgasms and pain tolerance?

Gosh, couldn't just ask me how old I was or something simple? We've had a lot of spanking → sex sessions. We've had a number of POST-sex spankings, where it felt more like a "rounding up" of the evening together, a reminder of his touch. There have been a few spankings with NO sex, usually because it just didn't feel right -these were usually reconnecting (and very emotional) sessions usually because I was, stressed, upset, frazzled at having to deal with real life etc.

And I have never actually been spanked after an orgasm so I honestly have no answer for this part of the question. We might table it until we've had a chance to "test" it out... you know, in the interest of science 😈. Let me speak to my CSO (Chief Spanking Officer, that is) about this. 

RONNIE - If cost was not a factor, where in the world would you most like to visit?

The answer to this has been the same for the last 30 years! The Oh-why-are-you-so-far-is! LOL

That's what I call it. I would love to go see the Northern Lights! That's it. That's the ONE thing I really really really want to see before I die -  (It really is so far away from me!. I would have to travel a VERY long way to get there. *Sad*)

ROZ - As for questions...you and BIKSS seem to manage time together regularly. How do you manage it?

It's so funny that our answers to your question came out almost a total opposite of each other. I would say, planning ahead, making the time, and arranging other stuff around it so that our time together gets priority, as we don't always have a LOT of it. 

When I asked BIKSS your question his answer was, "Flexibility & patience." Make of that what you will! I don't know if he meant he needs to be flexible with his schedule and be patient till he can see me again, or if he meant having to be flexible and patient when he's with me in case life throws a curveball and I upset his plans for us cos I need to run an errand or something. LOL. 

PREFECTDT - Where do you and BIKSS most want to travel to, when the present pandemic is over?

We both decided together that since we loved Hanoi so much on our last vacation (Jan 2020 before this pandemic) we might go there again when travel bans are lifted, perhaps as a way to "continue where we left off"... and forget Covid ever happened! Ugh.

But individually, we discussed where we would each like to take the other to, and I would like to take BIKSS to Sydney with me as I really enjoyed my vacation there a number of years ago and was thinking the whole time I was there how much he would love this or that.

His answer is that he would love to take me to see Paris. We've both been, individually, but I imagine it's an entirely different experience to be there with a significant other! 

MERRY CONTRARY - What was the most effective punishment/discipline you have received, and what did you do to deserve it?

First, an answer from BIKSS (cos I didn't quite know how to handle this one) : We have a relationship based very much on open communication (look at me saying that) and punishment does not play a part. The communication brings about a clear-headed analysis of the situation which, if required, may lead to a reset spanking/caning. 

(What he calls reset, I call penance. See below)

And my answer is -The most effective punishment (and I use the word loosely) would be having to hear him say he was disappointed in me. And I *have* heard him say that. But honestly I can't remember what I did... possibly something involving the hurling of accusations, being defensive / argumentative / rude / stubborn / unyielding / wanting to have my way / the last say in a fight... and... oh you know, just generally flying off the handle. The usual stuff. *sheepish grin*

But a reset / reconnection spanking (with whatever implement) will usually follow as a signal that we're back in the right place again - more for me, than for him. I wrote about how a spanking is necessary for me in my Penance vs Punishment post. 

Today's post was brought to you by the letter A

 

(click the pic above to find out more about the A-Z Blogging Challenge)

(P/S. A is also for Anniversary, and we celebrate 9 years of kinky loving today!)

Old Friends and New

As I was reading through some of my old posts and comments, reminiscing, I suppose, I came across a comment that June (of Ward & June) left one one of my posts, Secretes of the Sub Sisterhood mentioning that she had added the link to her favourite posts page on her own blog. 

If you've read there before you might have seen it already. But for some reason I only saw it for the first time today. 

So if you're interested in what some of their favourite posts were around blogland, have a look at THIS PAGE which contains a short description and links to the actual posts. Mind you this was a long time ago, in blogland terms anyway, so some of the links might not take you anywhere at all. But it's worth checking out, especially if you're new to DD / Ds / TTWD etc. 

And I just wanted to take the time to say how much I appreciate my early blogging friends, Conina, Kitty, Faerie, who were the first few to reach out and say "you're not alone and you're not weird"... 

Also, Emen, Bas, Jake, Spanky (and the CWS members) , Del Fonte, Geekie Kitty, Master's Piece, Aisha, Renee Rose, SNP, Ami, Dragon's Rose, and slightly more recently, Lil, Pygar & Abby (I do miss you). 

I'm sure there are more but it would take too long to go thru all my comments and list them all! Because yes, I have forgotten some of the names, but I will never forget that they all (like you) made me feel welcome at a time when I really needed to find some people who were like me. They uplifted, supported, encouraged, challenged, and celebrated me and each other. And I am so glad that the same spirit continues on in blogland today, even tho' individual bloggers may come and go. 

(Some of you are still here  - or I've recently found you again *looks at Bleue and DV* - so I shan't add you to that list! LOL)

Thank you for being my people!

My mood pic today ~

March Questions It Is

I wasn't sure if we were still doing March questions. But since I've seen a few bloggers posting up invitations for it, here we go. 

If you have a question, leave it in the comments or email me --> there's an email address on the right of this page just below the "Keep Out" box. 

But if you DON'T have a question but want to play along, I've left this little nugget on a few of my blogfriends' blogs and if you'd like to answer it, go right ahead! 

I'll compile everything (if I manage to find everyone's answers) and put it up here first week of April sometime. 

Name 3 implements that are employed regularly (besides the hand) on your behind (or your spankee's behind) and rank them in order of preference.

I'll add my answer to the compilation post. 

Meanwhile, have a good week ahead!

My mood pic today ~ 

Shopping Updates and Random Links and Things

I'm running off to dinner in my new balloon-sleeved white top later. It's a little see thru, as is the case with most white tops... but I found this link with "best bra under white" advice some time ago and have yet to put it to the test. I'll try it out later. But it should be LESS obvious than a white bra under, surely. 

RED BRA UNDER WHITE TOPS

Let me know what are your tricks to get away with translucent white tops without looking too "obvious"!

Also, since there was free shipping, I took the opportunity to pick up two more white tees, AND these black faux leather pants - 

And if you're still not sure, now's a good time to try SHEIN out - cos FREE SHIPPING till 3/3. At least to my country. (No, I'm not sponsored. I just think it's a good site where you can get decently made stuff for less than store-bought.) 

PLUS they really aren't too bad once you get the hang of MEASURING everything. And it's not just cos I'm Asian and these are NOT just Asian-sized clothes. Just ask Mrs Fever.  I'm actually very relieved her haul didn't let her down. Phew. I would have felt terrible if it didn't work for her! 

The best thing is, I get to try new styles, or rather, NOT my usual styles, at a lower cost / price point than if I were to go out and pick one up from Zara or whatever. And if I ended up not getting a lot of wear from something at least I won't feel as badly as if I'd gone and spent 40 or 50 bucks on it. 

Well, so we're off to that Halal Chinese restaurant I mentioned before, I'm pretty excited to see what they have on the menu.  As long as I don't have to eat any artisanal cheese I think I'll be ok. 

Or any weird shaped cakes. Have you seen this article about a cake in the shape of a man in a hospital bed? It was just freaky. I mean, what is WRONG with people? 

I like my food to just be regular food on a regular plate please. 

And then after that, maybe some good ol' fashioned regular sex. Nothing kinky... or foreign. 

I'll admit. I did read till the end. Did you? I only did so cos I wondered if there would be a translation. Nope. Tsk. 

And before I'm late I shall head to the shower pronto. But before I go, I shall leave you with THIS trippy pic. Imagine trying to get up and down THOSE stairs! Good thing my staircase DOESN'T look like that. At least if I'm late all I have to do is navigate a bunch of regular grey cement steps!

Happy Tuesday you lot. Let me know if you had any favourite things today!

Mom Jeans and Afternoon Tea

No I don't mean jeans for my mother. They're for me. 'Mom Jeans' - that's what this style is called.

Been looking for something more relaxed, high waisted, casual and comfy. Not that my current pair isn't comfy. It's just, it's one of those stretchy fitted types. And sometimes I really just want to slouch in a pair of loose-fit jeans. I ended up ordering these - from Shein - if you go NOW they're having a CNY promo offering free standard shipping, no minimum purchase required. 

At the time of writing this post there's 15 hours left to take advantage of it. 

From the reviews I gather it's a thinner type denim so I'm hoping it will prove less problematic when the weather starts to heat up in a month or two. 

Anyway, the buying of the jeans reminded me of a comment exchange on Prefectdt's blog - but since I am not in possession of such a fine ass, I shall go the "comfortable" route instead.

I also picked up some other things, one of which is a dress (the black one below) that costs something like USD$5.80. 

*Smiles conspiratorially at Mrs Fever*  Pssst... free shipping... now's the time if you wanna give Shein a try.

I suspect it might be a bit too short for work, but that's ok as I can just wear it as a tunic over my tights. I never seem to be able to find tops long enough to cover my crotch. And I definitely don't think one's crotch should be showing when one is wearing tights - especially to work!

The red dress is a bit of a splurge. It's about USD$12.50 - anything more than 10 bucks is a splurge to me - but I absolutely fell in love with the colour and the style, and simply had to have it. 

So far they've managed to get my stuff to me within a week, so I shouldn't have to wait too long for these, I don't think. 

Oh and on the topic of outfits - this was yesterday's CNY outfit (day 3) :

That was one of the Dorothy Perkins pieces from my animal print frenzy purchase. I was planning on wearing it to work today, as I only had it on for 2 hours yesterday, but decided in the morning that the print was a bit much. So I switched out the top for something simpler. 

I wore a sleeveless shell and threw on a jacket blouse over it, which turned out to be a fabulous idea cos we spent the day having afternoon tea and roaming around the shops and the a/c got rather too cold at some points. 

The lower tier was a selection of breads. 

I like that they bothered to toast the sandwiches that were best eaten warm. 

The upper tier was a selection of scones and cupcakes, with some jam, 

marmalade (absolutely delicious!) and clotted cream, of course.

The one lone scone that I just couldn't squeeze down my hatch 

so I smeared the cream and preserves on it and took it on the road with me. 

And *that* was our Valentine's Day Tea. Today. (Cos it was all Chinese New Year this and Chinese New Year that and no one really remembered Valentine's Day at all!)

My mood pic today ~