On Having A D/s Relationship

I've resurrected the Having a D/s Relationship tabs up top (next to FFF). If you didn't get a chance to read the document years ago when I first posted it, well, it's back online now. 

You can navigate through the tabs on the top of the blog or via the links at the bottom of each page. 

The websites / blogs that I copied the entire thing from are no longer live, so I'm really glad I ctrl+v'ed the whole lot!

Enjoy. I must say, some parts of it *still* gets my juices flowing. 

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TBT - CWS 6 - Pre Blowjob Thoughts According to BIKSS

Last week I put up the Pre-Blowjob Thoughts Challenge. There was a part two - this was BIKSS' point of view. Enjoy.

CWS Challenge #2 - HIS point of view

Following the positive response to BIKSS' recent posts, I asked if he would do me the honour of writing 55 words about what happens in his brain as I'm about to give him a blowjob. Here is his response to Spanky's CWS Challenge.

Ladies and Gentleman, Subs and Doms, I give you : 

55 words before you know your cock is going to be sucked - A Dom's Perspective

Watching me, you smile as you unzip me and release my cock from its cloth prison. Holding him firmly, you engulf him in your warm mouth, your eyes never leaving mine, not even for an instant.

“Sweet dreams are made of these,” was a song but I bet this wasn’t what they had in mind. 

TBT - CWS 5 - Pre Blowjob Thoughts

I haven't done a TBT CWS post in a while, so here's one of our early challenges.

Please feel free to write your own response to this Spanky challenge - just let me know in the comments if you do so I can come round and visit. 

I present ~ The Pre Blowjob Thought Challenge 

CWS Challenge #2

"Write 55 words on the moment before you know you will be sucking a cock" was the challenge issued by Spanky to the CWS network. I'm late coming to the party... but here goes:

The Pre-Blowjob Pep Talk

Will he let me take it in?
Almost I think. Now? Or later?

How should I pleasure him?
With gusto and fervour?
Or gently, teasing?

Mmm I think a feather-light touch to start
But please make it last.
You always get carried away
And get down to it too fast.

Oh, whatever. Here it comes!

(and that, if you count hyphenated words as 1, was exactly 55 words not including the title.)

TBT- CWS 4

Well then, I missed last week's TBT it appears. This week I've managed to schedule the post in advance. Here's an Ode to Cock from 6 years ago. It was meant to be funny and tongue/cock in cheek, so don't take it too seriously! 

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Ode to Cock - a CWS special

It's the girth - not the length
It's the power and the strength
It invades and impales

It is veiny, but it is smooth
It likes tongue, not so much tooth
And some sucking never fails

It is hard, and soft as well
When it's in me, what the hell!
Pump me harder, that's a boy!

Out again, it seeks my mouth
Head pushed into crotch, down south
Use me, fuck me, I'm your toy

Back of throat, deep you thrust
Keep it down, do this I must
Looking up I see your gaze

Eyes that speak of lust anew
Stare at me even while you spew
You cum, and we, together, laze.

TBT - CWS 3

Here are this week's excerpts - enjoy :)

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...I squat (yes, not terribly glamourous but it's the perfect height for me to get at Roger) and put his cock in my mouth. Rough. Urgent. Demanding. (That's me, by the way, not him!) Bikss has his hands against the wardrobe for balance, and leverage, as he pumps into my face. I look up at him often; he watches me worship his cock, and I'm convinced the view from above does something for him, if his thrusts are anything to go by. 

He pushes deep into my throat and I turn my squat into a kneel, for better stability, as he pumps right in and cums directly down the back of my throat. At the end of this I'm tearing and my nose is all stuffy from the gagging. Strangely my man never realises he's choking me. Not until I'm wiping my face with a towel. In all innocence he asks, "Sweaty?"  "No, gag reflex. Tears and snot, hun."

I swear I can almost see the amusement on his face as he says, "Oh, did I make you gag?"

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...His erection was bumping up against my thigh, insistently, and I reached down to hold it in my hand. I mumbled a complaint about having to navigate through his shorts and briefs and he responded by lifting them upwards and to the side to expose his eager cock from below. Skin met skin and we moaned at the same time from the thrill of making contact. With my hand wrapped around his shaft I began to stroke his length. I made to kneel down and take him in my mouth, but he stopped me with a light but firm touch. 

The windows are open, you sure you wanna do this?

Can I? Will anyone see?

via fcvadom

After a brief pause he nodded his consent. I bent at the knees and began a smooth descent until my mouth was the same level as his crotch. Then I shifted one leg into a kneel and was in a sort of prolonged genuflection as I worshipped his rapidly hardening cock. Looking straight up at him, I pulled him all the way into my throat, the angle of my head from keeping my eyes locked onto his making it less uncomfortable to do so (as compared with my experiences in the past). My lips were open to allow my tongue to reach out and caress the remainder of his cock that couldn't fit into my mouth. I teased his sac with my fingers and felt him give a little shudder. I brought my tongue back in and closed my lips around him now, manipulating whatever length of him I could take in my mouth with swirling tongue and tightening lips. I sucked, then released, I stroked his shaft with my closed hand in accompaniment to the movements of my mouth. He held me by the back of my head and I can't remember if he fucked my mouth with his hips or rocked my head back and forth over his cock, but I was rewarded for my service with a hot load of cum deposited right at the back of my tongue, oozing down my throat even as he continued to ejaculate. 

TBT - CWS 2

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TBT - CWS 1

Since I've been wanting to resurrect CWS but haven't been able to squeeze out enough time to make a plan for it, I thought I might jump on the TBT bandwagon and use it as an opportunity to share the CWS posts from moons ago. 

So here it is. The first CWS-tagged post from 2012.

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Subs and Blowjobs

This is more a discussion topic than a post. I'm not sure how and where to put this (is there a forum gadget? can I set up a forum-like tab?) so I'm just putting this here. 

My girlfriends have all stated very vehemently that they dislike giving their men blowjobs. Now I don't understand this. I think it's the most intimate, wonderful gift a girl could offer her man. And I love it! 

I don't know WHY I love it, I just do. Maybe it's the wonderment of the penis. Maybe it's the satisfaction I get seeing him thusly pleasured. Maybe it's the sense of accomplishment at making him cum in my mouth. I don't know and this isn't really what this post is about.

What it IS about is this - these same women, when I've approached the topic of women being submissive to their husbands, have all but stoned me for even thinking such a thing, never mind practising it. As I read all the blogs I follow I notice there is a strong desire for submissives to take their doms in their mouths and pleasure them with willing blowjobs.

(anon. upload to Picanese)

(BOD I tell BIKSS - Blowjob On Demand)

Is there a correlation between women who desire to be submissive in a relationship and their willingness for (and addiction to) going down on their men? 

Is cock-worshipping a trait of sub-inclined women?

If you would, let me know if you're a willing sub who introduced TTWD to your dom or the other way around... or if you're still an unwilling sub but have decided to go along with your partner because of whatever reason. And whether you've always been a fan of oral sex (giving) or did this grow (pun INTENDED!) on you (and in you... LOL).

Thanks... and do spread the word... It'll be good to get some answers from women in similar relationships. 

Preaching to the Choir

A friend posted a link to a blog about how women should respect their husbands. 

I suppose everyone here already knows this, but I thought it was a good reminder nonetheless.

Tomorrow BIKSS comes home, and I'm ashamed to admit sometimes I take him for granted. I take his presence in my life and the emotional security he provides for granted. 

Which is why this piece was a timely reminder for me. We go to the opera on Friday. And I'm going to be the most well-behaved little girl EVER!

Here's a snippet:

"Respect is our language. If it isn’t said with respect, we can’t hear it. This is why nagging is ineffective and self defeating. This is why statements made in sarcastic tones, or with rolling eyes, will never be received well. We have a filter in our brains, and a statement made in disrespect will be filtered out like the poison it is."

And here's the link: -

Your Husband Doesn't Have To Earn Your Respect

On Submissives in Repose - A Re-Post

I came across an article on For the Love of a Submissive : it's called On Submissives in Repose.

I found it to be a very apt description of those few moments between getting undressed and BIKSS' arrival, and just wanted to share it with you.

Here is a re-post but do check out the blog... it has many, many enlightening articles and is well thought out and eloquently written.

Having a D/s Relationship - A Re-Post

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Having A D/s Relationship : (1) Introduction

Having A D/s Relationship : (2) Why She Wants to be Submissive / (3) Being a Master

Having A D/s Relationship : (4) Erotic Pain / (5) Limits & Rules

Having A D/s Relationship : (6) Spankings & Discipline / (7) How to Enjoy Your Slavegirl + Summary