SO many updates.
BIKSS visited some relatives across the border over the Diwali weekend cos #obligations. His one ounce of Indian blood means there are people he's related to who celebrate the holiday.
Since he's been back (5 days ago) we haven't had dinner or anything cos the man is ill. Coughing. No Covid but I suspect a flu nonetheless. It's been wet and cold and hot and humid - sometimes all in the same afternoon. It's ridiculous. That's what happens when you live on the equator and have to deal with year-end monsoon season.
He's just been browsing the performance sites and suggested getting tix to Sound of Music which I expressed interest in some time ago. But with mum's situation I didn't dare think about booking anything. Now that I have some respite I think it's safe to plan farther than 24 hours in advance :)
I paid for the tix first using my c/card cos he wasn't sure what seats I prefer and decided to leave the booking up to me. Then transferred some cash over into my bank. There are a few ways one can do this, he chose to do it the traditional way via account number. Which doesn't give me any notifications. So I asked if he had signed up for the newer interbank-phone one, he said yes. But since he's always sent me cash this way, he just defaulted to it.
Ah, I said, cos this way the bank doesn't send out notifications. You just gotta log into the app and check the balance / transaction. With the newer way you get an email and an SMS.
And that's when he decided to tell me that he sent me money for my lappy repair. He's sweet that way. It would be better if I KNEW he was being sweet tho. LOL. Anyway, thanks have been sent. And kisses too.
Meanwhile, it's maybe a blessing in disguise that he's not available this week cos the Godsons (good friend's kids) have been needing me, and my niece (who is also my Goddaughter) has been feeling unwell and called me freaking out a little bit on Thursday night.
The boys are getting whatever help I can manage, it's a long-term-plan that one. Career guidance, education pathways, financial issues. Long story. But I'm working on getting a counsellor for Godson 2 who's having self-esteem and lack of motivation issues, and figuring out next steps and calling on friends who have other friends in the F&B world to see how best to help him on his quest to becoming a chef. (His dad isn't being very supportive cos the cheaper culinary school is pretty far away, and the mum doesn't want him to go to a private institute cos it's expensive, she says... and they have THOUGHT about counselling but never went cos, again, they can't afford it. Meanwhile there are a ton of free counselling services available here, especially for children and teens!)
The older one, aka Godson 1 - will be on school break for 2 months and is keen to move into the right college where he can then go on to do psychology in uni, so I'm helping him find suitable and relevant internships that he can think about and explore before he decides on applications. (Also, we've both enrolled in a psych/counselling intro/basics course that begins in Jan next year... I wanted to do this last year, but #mumproblems so I couldn't. Since Godson 1 wanted to enrol, I took it as a sign I should do it too!)
The niece, aka only Goddaughter, has been having warmness in her calf, tingling in her fingers and random aches and pains in her muscles and joints. Of course she went and googled everything to death and beyond thinking it's some autoimmune thing, and then her mother (my sister) said something about MS and then she went and googled MS and then started freaking out.
So I took her to my boss's clinic this morning to get her sorted. She'd been to two doctors previously but hasn't come away feeling any better cos the second one referred her to a neuro specialist but that's not till end of next month, and when one is feeling stressed, one doesn't want to wait. I suggested she see my boss cos I KNOW he's thorough. And since all the specialists couldn't do what HE did with sorting out mum's sleep situation, I figured let him try and work out her symptoms.
He did say they seemed rather random and didn't point to anything obvious currently. But he did a whole work up of labs and, as I expected, has been logging into the lab portal every few hours cos he's eager to see what her results show. He's THAT kind of doctor. It's not just cos she's family to me - he does this with our other patients too, I know cos I can tell when he's logging into the portal - I'm on the same email accont for the 2FA verification thingamajig. And he'll sometimes text me and grumble that so and so's results are taking a long time to get uploaded on the portal.
Anyway, he reassured her that it's not a nerve thing, nor a muscular degeneration thing. Her symptoms don't point to that. Also SUPER unlikely to be a MS thing cos again, symptoms not quite there. Sister suggested fibromyalgia but he doesn't think so cos the presentation doesn't satisfy the requirements for that diagnosis. Still, he's curious now, he gets like that when he has a puzzle in front of him. Just like mum was a puzzle for him. And I know he'll be happily researching a bunch of things to try and figure this out. Which is exactly what we need, instead of a doctor who's just gonna pick the most obvious probable thing and "try" some meds or treatment and see how it goes (like what they did for mum).
She was in a much better state by the time we parted after lunch, and hopefully she'll be able to sleep better tonight than she has in the last month.
The other Godson, the nephew, on the other hand, didn't ASK for me, but I did some Godma-ing on him anyway. He's got it in his head that he wants to pursue some MLM thing, so he quit his job, took some of his savings (which isn't a whole lot in the first place) and went to the US for some MLM conference. That's a 2000 dollar trip. His wife (yes, he's married) isn't local, and has been very transparent about sending cash home to her parents who are managing the building of a house for her on their property. The nephew isn't planning on buying a place here, choosing instead to use his money for his MLM thing, instead of securing a roof over his and his wife's head. They are both living under my sister's roof. Le Sigh!
The wife's plan is - in plain ENGLISH - if he fucks up and she finds herself broke and homeless, she'll go back to her home country.
I don't blame her. As a non-citizen there are limits on what she can do independently of her husband here, including not being able to buy her own flat (eligibility for subsidised housing not met, salary requirements for loans are stupid high etc) so she decided to build her contingency plan in the country of her birth.
I'm all for an exciting life, but um, dude, you have a wife who needs you to be present to her needs and aware of her limitations!
Anyway, I've been busy the last couple of weeks with these young'uns which has made me extremely prone to afternoon naps.
Oh, and finally, mum has the start of what looks like a cutaneous horn on her forearm and I'm trying to find someone who can come by and excise it only no one wants to do procedures at home and none of the nearby GPs do in-clinic procedures cos they're all shit scared of complications.
It's fucking annoying that everyone keeps telling me they can send her to the specialist in the hospital who can do the removal - I CAN'T TAKE MUM TO THE HOSPITAL (I say while rolling my eyeballs in my mind) COS SHE'LL END UP BECOMING DELIRIOUS AND THEN WON'T BE ABLE TO SLEEP OR EAT FOR THE NEXT 48 HOURS!
I'm so tired of explaining her hypersensitivity to stimulation. Anyway I've asked an aesthetic clinic near mum's old place. It's the clinic I first went to at the very start of this blog when I did my skin tag removal, and over the years have gone back to for various things. But since I started working at my clinic 5 years ago I haven't needed to go back there. It's a good thing I've kept in touch with his nurse tho... she's promised to check with the doc and see if he's able to do this thing in-clinic in which case I might hazard a short bus ride there to get it done. It's a much better option than taking her to the hospital.
I'm also asking other boss who does derm and aesthetics if he knows anyone who is willing to come by the house to do this. He'll check. There's a senior consultant he knows who might do it, as he's "reaching the age where he wants to retire and is trying to find meaning in life". LOL. Come help me with the mum problem, that's plenty opportunity to find meaning in life!
And so I've been running around, making phone calls, arranging appointments, making enquiries, checking a bunch of websites. AND getting myself fed.
I went to a souffle pancake place the sister wanted to eat at. The diabetic had the pancakes (yes, the sister) and I had the avocado and salmon salad with extra sides of scrambled eggs and fresh berries. But there are no carbs in souffles, she says. Of course not. Only eggs. Unless you're having PANCAKES made in the style of a souffle. In which case, read the menu - there is WHEAT FLOUR in there. She shrugs and orders it anyway. I give up.
I also gave myself a truffle cheese treat - picked this up at 40% off and had some on a rye cracker for a snack on Friday night. Perfect!
I liked it so much I decided to treat myself some more and ordered more cheeses.
This whiskey one has BIKSS' name on it!
And today after clinic in the morning with the niece we all decided to have the portabello burger at Shake Shack. The sister was paying. So I didn't feel bad about the cost - SHE thinks it's perfectly fine to pay $40 for 3 mushroom burgers and 3 iced teas. I ate the mushroom+cheese patty (ok, it was very yummy) and veggies and chucked out the buns. The diabetic conviced herself it was healthy cos NO MEAT, all veg, and then ate all of it. Le Sigh.
Right. And now it's time for bed. That's been this week's update! Catch you all soon!