Yup. You heard that right.
Given that he's not a big fan of writing, this came to me last night out of the blue. He wrote this for me, but also for the blog. While I do most (ok, almost all) of the writing on this blog, we *both* wanted this to be a place where thoughts and ideas could be shared and exchanged. We have gained much from having blogged here, and hope that others have taken something away from it too.
I won't be so bold as to say I hope we've provided any answers to anyone along their TTWD journey through sharing our own discoveries here, but if someone has read here and felt they could relate or at least found comfort in knowing that we too have "been there and done that", then we're doing something right.
It is in this spirit that I share the note BIKSS wrote for the blog.... and me.
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Sometimes Doms screw up and we need to be reminded why we are who we are and what our responsibilities are.
I can be crass. I know this and am usually in control of myself, keeping my words polite when I should. After all, one does not insult the sensitivities of other people with crude remarks in public.
Somehow I have forgotten that rule and let myself be crass in situations with Fondles where I should have been a little more respectful.
I was called out as being unnecessarily crude with increasing frequency; crass even. It slips out. I compare EVERYTHING to something sexual. I only do it with Fondles, nobody else. I suppose the fact she is my lidl sets me so much at ease I subconsciously figured, incorrectly, that I could say anything sexual in front of her at any time without any repercussions.
I never gave it much thought, maybe thinking I was being smart and cheeky. Unfortunately it was getting to Fondles and last week she called me on it.
She was right. I had forgotten myself. My place in her life is as her Dom, someone who tells her what is right, how she should behave and how she should speak, among other things. Yet, here I was being rude and crass and not showing a good example.
(To elaborate, BIKSS has pointed out that I should not stand for bawdiness - specifically from guys - and I agree with him. In the past I never thought to object as I didn't want to be labelled a prude, and so I would laugh along with everyone else when someone made a lewd remark or inappropriate reference to anything sex-related. I have become more discerning these days and was / am actually proud of myself for being able to say to a new chap I met that I would really appreciate it if he didn't make everything about sex, or turn everything we talked about into a "sex" thing. It was during this time, when I was feeling particularly accomplished, that I realised BIKSS was doing the very thing he had explicitly told me no woman should have to tolerate. I was confused and upset by this disparity.)
She actually apologized to me after her rant in the car, but she didn’t have to. She was right to do so. I needed the reminder. A gentler one may have gone down a little more easily, I’ll admit, but what she said in the car that night was exactly what I needed to hear to remember who I am.
Her Dom.
So Fondles, thank you for that gentle kick (and other not-so-gentle ones) in the backside that set me back on the path we both travel side by side.
